THREE RELATIONSHIP MISTAKES – CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE.

okay so this is a nother lock down love life rewind over these sermons and where we’re speaking about relationships and so today I want to talk about mistakes that we can make in relationships not doing in my office today the Sun actually cell knees and I had to get another life but really this sermon spoke about men and women and why I’ve done is I’ve gone through something that just basically reduced it down to what I think would be relative to put on a short video Genesis 1 verse 27 very short passage of Scripture so God created man in his own image in the image of God he created him male and female he created their mistake number one is we’re trying to make one another the same the Bible says that he made the male and female there is a difference here we know that Jesus echoes this Matthew 19 mark 10 Jesus says in the beginning when God made you it made you male and female and so we understand there is a difference you’re like yeah we know that that’s not that’s not a revelation we knew that already but we are trying to make the spouse many times the same as us we’re trying to make our spouse sometimes we’re trying to make our spouse the same as us we’re trying to think we want them to think like the way we think act like the way we think process things I’m speaking to someone who’s different than you they haven’t come from the same house as you they haven’t come from the same room as you first mistake that we make is we’re trying to make somebody exactly like us think like us be like us in the beginning God made them male or female that person is different and you’ve got to understand those differences women process things different than men process things I only said this yeah to another man it would be like yeah we get that but to a woman she sees that different so the that’s the testam probably number one mistake a woman why does he do that all the time I just told him this and the a book about men are from this and women from that Venus and Mars and I’ve read the book a long time ago but there’s things and so early on we’ve no more what we learned there’s differences we learn differences that I may be driving or my wife wants to offer help but I don’t really want to yet why did you turn they turn there you missed that turning she’s only trying to help but it’s just I don’t know it just Rob’s me I just didn’t like it it’s like this let me get you there we’ve never been lost let me work those things out where a woman is extending help to another woman she’s that hard it’s so nice you’re helping me to a man many times as I had you know I want to figure this thing out saying we have a woman a woman comes my wife would come from work and she would say something like oh the person at work they said this they said that and so I rehearsed the conversation and then I say well you shouldn’t have said that if you said and said that and she wasn’t looking for the solution she was looking to share the burden and that’s where we’re different and we learned and so my wife would tell me something someone said this someone said that out but I are really okay come on it’s over Hagen she’s not looking for a solution she’s looking to share the experience so that somebody can kind of help her carry it so men and women are different the personal America is different mistake number one stop trying to make them exactly like you mistake number two is until we get until until that person is the same as me we’re not going to be effective as a team you’ve got think exactly the way I think and I was thinking exactly the way you think for us to be a team and I would say you’ve got to be on the same page but you don’t have to be exactly the same the Bible says that when God made Adam he made Adam and then he looks and he says Adam there’s no help me for you well actually yes it’s not good for you to be alone that’s what God it’s not good for you to be a long Genesis to verse 18 the Lord God said it’s not good that man should be alone I will make him a help meet for him so compatible for him edifying to him better for him and so he makes all the animals and the names of the animals then God puts him to sleep and he brings Eve and so when Eve comes along Eve is female he’s male Eva’s different but it’s not until he this different person comes into his life doesn’t think like him does not like him but his different person comes into his life that then Adam can truly be fruitful he’s made them different so that they can complete one another if if they were exactly the same they wouldn’t complete one another this the differences that makes them complete one another it’s the differences that makes them fix the gearbox in electrical terminologies there is a male and female socket they go together that’s the way they’re gonna go together they fix together now the enemy the devil who always wants to exploit differences so he will amplify differences and try to make Wars out of differences but God is saying no it’s that it’s those differences that will unleash destiny and purpose because if you think about it Adam did not become fruitful until this different person came into his life stop trying to dissolve the differences of your spouse and learn how those differences can help you achieve what God has called you to achieve first Corinthians 11 verse 12 says for as the woman is of the man even so the man is of the woman but all things have God so what he’s saying is that what you want to do [Music] my wife is just coming and interrupted so she’s different so let’s this this go for as the woman is of the man even so the man is of the woman but all things were of God so what he’s saying is is that you you you without a woman you’d have no men and without a man you’d have no I mean simple it’s not revelation but you think about he’s saying without these differences it’s the differences that really makes this thing powerful we understand those differences in roles Ephesians five speaks about the wife submitting and following the leadership of a husband but you got to remember he goes on and then it says husbands love your wife like Christ loved the church that he gave himself for her so here we see that the husband is lovingly leading to a point that he’d be willing to die and so that that woman can follow that man so we see that the difference is he didn’t say a wife loved your husband like Christ loved the church that you’re willing to die for him differences but in those differences God is perfecting what he wants to do last mistake is you’re trying to create your culture in the marriage and I don’t even mean ethnic culture I just mean this is what you’ve come from this is the home you came from this is what you did this is how you did money this is how you did conflict resolution out the way you see it and when that comes in the house then where we can really roll but Bible says that he created man in his own image in the image of God who created him male and female created them so the mistake that many of us make when we get married or where we need someone we’re trying to impose our image on that person in Ephesians 4:22 that you put off concerning the former conversation the old man which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts and be renewed in the spirit of your mind he’s saying all of us need to put off old things and then embrace new things when you get married or when you’re in a relationship you’ve gotta be willing to lay down old things and embrace new things and then he says that you put on the new man which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness and so what God wants is for us to be laying aside our old laying aside the familiar embracing the new and becoming more and more in the image of Christ so what we want in our marriage is not kortnee culture what I grew up on I’m laying aside was familiar to me I’m willing to embrace what’s new but the new de I’m embracing is new Christ culture so I’m not trying to make my spouse like me and they’re not trying to make me like them with both allowing Christ culture to rule in our marriage and every other thing submit yourself unto that ethnic culture urban culture just the way we did money all the things that I have inside of me has to submit to Christ culture because the more I’m becoming like Christ in His image and the more my spouse is becoming like Christ in the image the closer we get together the more solid we become and we fit neatly and we come together three mistakes that people can make in their relationships there will be a next one I don’t know what the next one’s going to be but there will be a next one praise God peace