Christian Online Dating Advice: Does God Want You to Online Date to Find a Christian Spouse? 7 Tips

hey everybody I’m mark from apply God’s Word calm a place we apply the Bible to your life if you’re new to this channel I would love for you to subscribe we’re brand new on YouTube so I’d love for you to join our new community in this video I’m gonna talk about 7 tips for Christians when it comes to online dating I’m gonna go and rapid-fire because I’ve written an article about this same topic so I’ll leave a lot of more in-depth information and Bible verses in that article I’ll leave a link in the description of this video if you want to check that out the first thing I want to say about online dating and Christians is that you might want to try online dating if traditional dating isn’t working out I do think traditional dating is a little bit more natural and should probably be your first choice meeting somebody in person has a lot of benefits to it progressed you know progressing with a natural friendship just getting to know them in a more natural way is definitely a little bit more easy and just comes more naturally so I would say that you want to try online dating if that isn’t working so if you’re like 19 or you know in your early 20s I don’t think online dating is really necessary but if you’ve tried traditional dating you’ve tried to meet new people and it’s been maybe like six months a year more than a couple years since you’ve been on a date online dating might be a great option for you the second thing I would say is that it’s not about how you meet it’s about who you date and who you end up eventually marrying I think a lot of times Christians are hesitant when online dating comes up because they’re just not really sure about it is this a sign that you’re not trusting God that you know you’re taking matters into your own hands too much and it’s just kind of the new format for dating so I think with that comes a lot of uneasiness and just not being sure but I think you should take comfort that even the idea of traditional dating as you and as you as I and I mean it isn’t a topic that you’re going to find in the Bible directly so what we have to do is we have to take biblical wise principles that we see in the scriptures and apply those truths to this traditional dating that most people experience so with that said you can do the same thing with online dating there’s nothing in the Bible that condemns the the type of dating that most people experience and there’s also nothing in the Bible that condemns online dating so even though it doesn’t directly condone it it doesn’t directly condemn it either so a big picture it’s more about who you date rather than how you meet that person the Bible again doesn’t give us specifics on how the process should take place but it does give us specifics on who the process should take place with the Bible talks specifically about the type of person God wants Christians to marry I’ve done another video on this so I’ll leave a link in the description of this video for that video on the qualities of a godly spouse you want to look for but big picture it’s about gauging the quality of somebody rather than how you meet that person the third thing I think you should consider is don’t use online dating if you lack discretion online dating is a little bit riskier in my opinion because you don’t know that much about somebody when you’re choosing to go on a date with them as we all know with social media and online you get to choose what you want to share with the world so obviously people are gonna you know share their best side on the online dating platforms that you might be looking at so you want to be someone who can kind of read between the lines and has good discretion you don’t want to be somebody who’s easily wowed or has a history of being gullible and liking guys that really aren’t good quality guys or girls that aren’t good quality girls if you’re a woman that you know usually chooses someone who’s handsome / honorable or rich rather than respectful or charismatic rather than christ-centered you know you’re not gonna want to engage in online dating because you don’t want to be deceived by those tricksters who out who are out there or if you’re a guy who just has a history of whipping out the credit card when he you know gets a girl that’s actually interested in them again you’re gonna want to stay away from this platform because there’s going to be a lot of people out there who are misusing it you have to go into it knowing that there’s going to be people that aren’t having as good intentions as you with this even if you’re using a Christian online dating website service the fourth tip is to be transparent with somebody that you trust regarding your online dating you don’t want to be closeted online dating and just making all the decisions on your own and having known in your life to keep you accountable the thing about online dating is that it really is a pretty bold step forward and once you start pushing forward you might start pushing a little bit too hard and you might want to start grasping at straws and start dating people that you really shouldn’t be because you want this so bad I don’t think there’s anything wrong with pursuing dating or being active or trying online dating but you just don’t want to get out of control with it and those people in your life who really love you can help you stay balanced in that area the fifth point is take the idea of dating very seriously but don’t take each date overly seriously you know when it comes to online dating it’s really unlikely that you’re gonna go on one date and bam meet the person that God has for you it’s possible but again it’s probably unlikely so you’re gonna wear yourself out if you take each date too seriously enjoy it for what it is have fun especially early on when you’re dating somebody the whole point early on in dating should just be to see if you guys enjoy each other’s company if you have the basic check points you want are they a Christian do they seem normal are you somewhat attracted to them those real easy basic questions you should just be having fun and socializing so don’t over do it when you first start dating somebody another helpful tip is don’t see each date as pass or fail again if you see each date as pass or fail you’re gonna wear yourself out and end up feeling like a failure because not every date is gonna go the way that you thought it might there’s lots of benefits to dating even if it doesn’t end in marriage again I think the point of dating should be towards marriage but dating people enhances your character it helps you develop your social skills it’ll help you define what you really want in somebody and it’ll help you know what type of people you enjoy or don’t enjoy the type of personality that you’re looking for so even though dating might not end up you know in a marriage there’s still benefits to dating if you’re in a season where you want to pursue marriage you don’t want to do it flippantly but you don’t want to see each datas pass or fail either 0.7 I think summarizes all the other points and it’s this you don’t want to forget the true purpose of Christian dating I’ve done some other videos on this about how dating should really be used but in summary my belief about dating is that it should be used as a season of determining if someone is a good spouse for you if you two want to progress in marriage I don’t think you need to know you want to marry that person you want to date like you don’t have to think move that person I want to marry that person so I’m going to date them that’s the whole point of dating just to figure out if you want to go that far but again you want to you want to remember that the point of biblical dating is to pursue marriage you don’t want to just date to date or just date just because you’re lonely and have fun but you don’t really want to commit towards someone in marriage if you do that you’re going to get in a lot of trouble the reason I say it’s important to remember this principle because you’ll be able to see the success in dating even when it doesn’t work out let’s say you go on a few dates and the two of you both agreed this just isn’t a good fit that’s a successful dating relationship because the question dating is designed to answer was answered is this person your future spouse and you guys figured out no it’s not so that’s actually a successful dating experience because you’re answering the question you set out to answer it in that is this person somebody you want to marry well there’s so much more we could talk about I’ve actually again written an article about this on my website and apply God’s Word calm on this same topic of online dating so I’ll leave a link in the description of this video if you want more information on that and this topic of online dating is actually covered in my book called the ultimate guide to Christian singleness as you can see this book is in paperback it’s shorty it’s thirty short chapters of questions that Christian singles often ask and if you want a free copy of this book I give it away in an eBook format on my website as well and apply God’s Word calm so I’ll leave a link in the description of this video for that too well thanks for watching until next time god bless