Why Many Christian Men Remain Single | Christian Singles

in today’s video I’ll be sharing with you why many Christian guides remain single stay tuned hey guys my name is Justin and I want to welcome you to that Christian vlogger a place we get to join me and experience faith in the first person on this channel I talked about relevant issues of faith for young people every single Monday and Thursday so definitely consider subscribing also if you’d like to be notified when new videos come out don’t forget to hit that Bell icon below as well so a few weeks ago I released a video on why so many Christian girls are still single and truth be told I wasn’t really planning on going any further with it I mean I didn’t really have any plans to do a video on Christian dating directed towards men but a lot of you guys seem to ask hurt so I decided why not Oh which actually reminds me by the way if there are some other topics that you would like me to do videos on go ahead and comment below because I am listening and reading every single in your comments reason number one Christian guys remain single too many Christian guys are boys not men fact no real woman wants to be married to a child and listen I’m a pretty independent guy and I love playing video games just as much as the next side but some of us some of us we tend to take it just too far so many guys who are well into their 20s and 30s and even their forties live as though that there’s still 18 years old no job or no idea what to do with their lives you know just wasting away the day is drinking and partying and screwing around and while I could talk about the morality of that from a Christian perspective which I won’t not in this video at least a simple practicality of it is that this is not type of man that women are looking for at least not women of quality now you might actually be able to find the occasional a matured girl who hasn’t yet grown up and is interested in these same types of things but this really isn’t the kind of person that you want to settle down with and spend the rest of your life with men of quality tend to attract women of quality so stop being such a boy grow up and become a man and not the kind of raw meat eating bear wrestling gun shooting and beard growing character of a man that society says that you’re supposed to be especially not old beer part totally you know just completely overrated but spend time becoming the type of man that God calls you to be one of maturity consistency decisiveness and strength by the way I totally took those four things from this book that I’ve been reading called four things women want from a man by a are Barnard in case you would like more information on the subject reason number two Christian guides main singles is that they don’t really have an understanding of their calling one reason why I think many Christian guys struggle to find quality women is that they actually don’t have a true sense that their calling in life now I have mentioned multiple times in other videos on this channel that your calling isn’t always necessarily going to be your career and I should also add that I found in life that your calling in life this tends to kind of evolve over the course of year but think to yourself is do you have a at least a general sense of your purpose in life do you understand why God has placed you on this earth and are you actively pursuing that calling think about it like this in the book of Genesis before Adam was ever introduced to Eve he already had an understanding of this calling he already had a ministry and a job that God had given him to do and he was actively furthering that cause I believe that before God leads you to that special someone or happens to leave that special someone to you that he first want to see if you are already following him in this area of your life and this just makes total sense God has wired men in such a way that we identify so strongly with our calling I mean when guys meet each other for the first time I mean after we know each other’s name the very first question we tend to ask each other is so like what do you do there’s something about how God has created us as men where we’re just incomplete without purpose or calling in life and if we’re going to be incomplete as individuals and it’s no wonder our relationships tend to struggle because if we’re incomplete that were only ever going to be a fraction of the type of man that God has created us to be reason number three Christian guys remain single paralysis by analysis okay so let’s say that you’re not one of those boys who is just out there to play games with other people’s hearts and you’re serious about your relationship with God and you happen to have understanding of your calling sure you might not actually be perfect but then again what Christian guy out there is right then one last thing that I would say is that many Christian guys get wrong is summed up in this phrase paralysis by analysis so many guys get caught up asking the dreaded what-if questions instead of acting or doing what if she says no what if it’s awkward what if things don’t work out oh what a things do work out what if he’s interested in someone else what if he doesn’t get me and the list goes on and on and on and on so many guys mistakenly think but they have to have everything figured out before they even talk to a girl some guys in their quest to be the best follower of Jesus that they can be make the mistake of thinking that they then have to be perfect and are ready for translation before ever talking to a girl newsflash if you talk to anyone who’s even been married for the smallest amount of time they will tell you that the growth definitely does not stop with dating or marriage in fact both dating and marriage have led needs you have some of the biggest seasons of growth that I can to experience as a man so if you want to be as Christian man who already have covered some of these bases that I’ve talked about you know you already have a consistent relationship with God or you’re mature decisive consistent and strong then just go forward take a risk and give it a shot yeah yeah I get it it’s it’s scary sometime because there is a somewhat decent chance that things won’t actually work out the very first time but it doesn’t mean that it’s not worth it as CS Lewis put so magnificently to love at all is to be vulnerable love anything and your heart will be wrong and possibly broken if you want to make sure of keeping it intact and you must give it to no one not even an animal wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries avoiding all entanglements you can lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness but in that casket safe dark motionless and airless it will change it will not be broken it will become unbreakable impenetrable unredeemable to love is to be born so go and be vulnerable move forward in the fear of God and actually just give it a shot for goodness sakes just be a man thanks so much to you guys for commenting below and suggesting this video as always oh these are just one man stuff and I’m curious to know what you think did I miss a big reason as to why many cushion guys are still single and then if so what’s some advice that you would give on Christian dating to our single guys out there before you go if you enjoyed this video give it a thumbs up and share it with a friend definitely subscribe for more videos every Monday and Thursday and if you’d like to support the vision of this channel you can do so at patreon.com slash that Christian vlogger but until then I’m that Christian vlogger and I want to encourage you to experience faith in the first person god bless