How Important is Physical Attraction in Godly Marriage & Relationships?

hey everyone Caroline Roberts here and welcome back to my youtube channel in this video we are going to be talking about how important is physical attraction in godly marriage and relationships so if you’re interested in watching more then definitely stay tuned [Music] so first off I want to start this video by saying there is more to attraction than physical attraction you can be attracted to someone physically but you can also be attracted to someone intellectually so maybe you like this person’s ideas maybe they have really good ideas and thought processes in a great mindset and you’re attracted to them intellectually or you can be attracted to someone emotionally so maybe this is someone that makes you feel comfortable maybe this is someone that makes you feel safe like you can share what you’re going through with them they’re very supportive so there are different types of Attraction now I’m making this video because woman asked me all the time Caroline would God make me be in a relationship with someone who I’m not attracted to or do I have to end up getting married to someone I’m not really interested in and my answer to that question is cysts that created physical attraction God created sex God does not want you to settle God wants to give you his best and that is his best for you now physical attraction is variable maybe one person is physically attracted to one person but someone else wouldn’t be physically attracted to that same person but attraction does matter and God is the one who created attraction and he created it for a purpose but I believe that where we get lost is sometimes when we’re looking for a relationship some of us only base you know our qualifications for a spouse on how they look physically and I can save this guy’s because I’ve been there and done that in middle school in high school I wasn’t interested in intellectual attraction I wasn’t interested in spirituality or making sure that the person I was with was equally yoked with me I wasn’t interested in the things I was pretty shallow and I was just focused on how the person looked and did I think that we can make good-looking babies together but when you grow and you mature as a person when you grow and you mature in your walk you realize that physical attraction does play a role physical attraction is important but there is more to making a relationship work in a relationship last than just simply physical attraction alone bond himself says that man looks at the outward appearance but he looks at the heart so if we are supposed to reflect God’s image if we are supposed to model his character then we ourselves are not only supposed to consider the physical or outward image of people or judge people how they look on the outside but to consider the heart and the character of a person so don’t just get married to a man because he has a six-pack and he looks the way you want him to look he has a type of hair that you want your kids to have can this man be a father to your children can this man really lead your family does this man have godly character does this man remind you of Jesus and I can be honest at some point in my life I didn’t think it was possible I didn’t think that God could give me someone who reflected the character of Jesus but at the same time be someone that I was attracted to and that was a lack of faith sometimes they have this lack of faith mentality but now I know after being married to my husband for almost seven years now and literally him being the most attractive man in the world to me but also being an awesome man of God and you know a faithful husband and amazing father God showed me that it is possible for me and many other woman as well there’s so many other good guys out there I’m tired of hearing people say oh there’s no good guys out there there’s no one available for me if God desires for you to get married and if you trust him what’s your relationship status you trust him with your life I guarantee that he will work something out for you according to his will so I just wanted to do this video to encourage you that of course God doesn’t want you to settle he’s not gonna force you to be in a relationship with anybody if you are really not attracted to someone then you don’t have to be in a relationship with them but don’t only look at physical attraction attraction can grow in many different areas attraction can grow over time so if someone has good enough character if he’s a nice enough man then maybe you can give him a chance and maybe the attraction will grow I’ve heard of many couples who’ve gotten married and at first the wife was like oh he was hollering at me but I wasn’t even really interested in him but they started off with friendship and it blossomed into something greater and she grew to fall in love with him and she grew to grow attracted to him and vice versa so maybe that might be your story and if it is that’s completely fine everyone’s love story and everyone’s journey is different so I hope that you found this video helpful if you did leave it a thumbs up and if it’s your first time on my channel do not forget to subscribe until next time bye [Music]