Don’t Settle for Crumbs: Hope for Christian Singles

these men and women gathered at new life Providence Church in coastal Virginia have three things in common they are Christian over the age of 30 and they are all single the singleness is the big issue in our culture and the church is a good place for us to talk about it we need to talk about it because single people struggle just like many people CBN News anchor and author Wendy Griffith recently spoke to the group she talked candidly about her journey as a single woman and the heartbreak that helped her figure out the kind of love God has in store for her one thing I learned that God showed me after the breakup was that I had loved him but I had not loved myself when you know your own value you don’t settle for bad behavior that lesson turned into a book you are a prize to be won God was able to use it to change Diane bridges life the book I felt like it was what I had just gone through and it really transitioned to me on to a total different path of of confidence in standing up for myself I just had an amazement of God how he can take the worst year of our life our deepest pain heartache and turn it into a blessing to others that’s exactly what God did for Melissa dawn Simpkins she’s a successful entrepreneur living in Washington DC and as you can see by the ring on her finger she is not single but she says her journey from singleness is something she hopes others can learn from I started dating like most single women you know in my 20s and I fell in love with a gentleman that I thought was going to be my life partner and I would marry and suddenly and when I was 25 he died he had was playing basketball and collapsed and suddenly I’m dealing with the question of am I going to find love again and if so do I even want to live again she says after God healed her from her time of heartbreak in grief her career as a brand strategist took off she’s worked with big-name clients like NBC all-star Carmelo Anthony singer mary j blige and the list goes on her love life was another story before I looked up it was you know 10 years later and I was still single had a great career but I was not married then God told her this he showed me this is who you’ve become and allow me to help you move into who you really are Simpkins says God knows the big picture and your full potential so when you wait on him that’s when he can work I’m at a party I’m out socializing I’m meeting and connecting with people a guy stops me he says you should smile more often and I’m thinking ah I literally bought a shirt that said make sure you smile cuz you never know who’s gonna fall in love with your smile because it was reminding me I knew I needed to smile like I wasn’t smiling so I smiled so thank you and a gentleman was walking by behind the guy that said that to me and he looked at me and he said stop talking to him come talk to me little did she know that man would become her husband and her entire journey as a single woman would prompt her to create an organization called women in the spotlight it helps women succeed without sacrificing their identity Melissa believes her happy ending can happen for any single person desiring marriage my advice is to step up your faith and when I say that is is to expect God to do more when I saw your smile for the first I said listen this is a desire of my heart and I believe that you put it in my heart so I don’t care if the statistics are not in my favour as an african-american female living in Atlanta all I need is one make them find him do what you got to do but I didn’t mean what like Melissa wendy is putting her faith into action and even dedicated her book to her future husband she urges singles to not lose hope in the waiting God is saying I’ve got something better for you I’ve got my best for you and so that’s what I’m encouraging other women to not settle for crumbs Charlene Aaron CBN News