Dating as a Christian

our first topic okay it’s from Shai Anna okay who was skyping from San Marcos California you’re beautiful too girl alright okay say Anna can you please share with us your question yes okay so um I’m 24 years old I’m a full-time college student and a preschool teacher and I was hoping to get some advice on dating as a Christian and my situation is kind of unique to where I’ve not ever been asked out on a date I’ve never had a boyfriend never been kissed so there’s like a little lot of Nevers going on right now and I just don’t know where to start I am in the past when I you know ask someone out or express feelings I always do like friend-zoned and so I was just hoping you guys could like help me out I I don’t know where to start I’m a newbie I would say start off with the fact that Nevers are not a bad thing there’s just so much to look forward to yeah don’t look at it as a bad thing do you attend a church regularly right now I do I do okay you know how some churches they have a city called ministry single’s ministry you have single events I would say I remember when I was younger I would be afraid to go by myself because you know everyone’s there kind of like for the same reason everyone I would go with with your girlfriends and I would say I will say this once you actually get out there don’t be afraid to be yourself stay true to yourself especially in like the hill a hook-up culture you know sometimes it can be a little you know intimidating but it’s okay it’s totally fine and then I would say make sure you find someone that will respect your morals and your values because you don’t want to find yourself changing who you are just because you want to be with somebody I think the idea of the single’s ministry is great because hopefully if you meet somebody there they’ll have the same morals and lusts that you have but I think on campus a lot of times they have Christian organizations on campus too well so I think there’s also just spaces there and I think in general like let me just also give you props because you’ve tried you know a lot of women feel like I don’t want to like be rejected and so you’re just not gonna try anymore so I think it’s dope that you put it out there in the game coach I’ve been myself and it just hasn’t worked out you know so we’re for you yeah they weren’t for you in your life confidence is amazing and also I’m just saying being on this show might do a little something shayana is a Christian woman who teaches the children and his she wants a date so if you ready get this I also want to say after divorce I was really nervous getting back into it because it feels like so much has changed and people are into social media and they have all these different trends but I want you to know that you lead the way with what your few feel comfortable with so you set the vibe at all time yeah so when you go out on a date if you feel like kissing him then do if you don’t then you also can set the tone to be like a hug a nice date that was great when you feel like holding hands you can reach for his hand and hold his hand too you ain’t gotta wait for him so that takes the pressure off of you wondering is it gonna kiss me again you know I hold a fan like you set the tone girl it’s a whole any spirit guide you there a lot of you know I don’t know this on online places like christianmingle.com where you can find people that are like-minded like you that you know understand about the moral issue and things like that and I would suggest that you try that out as well and you are young do not think that you’re missing out on anything a lot of stuff that you see in here is that way operated girl to do all that other stuff but finding the right person that’s something that’s a lifetime and it’s priceless [Applause]