6 Stupid Things Christians Do When Dating

hey gay people hey we’re back we’re family weeks in a row we’re here at 6:30 BST you had yeah they don’t wear some find us we’re consistent make sure that you were here waiting hit that notification six paid every Monday has a nasty bruise right you see something you seeing something and we just need to address it because we’ve always talked about relationships on our channel but in particular we have will still be struggling out here I make sense because we’re all flawed enough but at the end of the day we want to bring to the surface come on the decision that Christians make one day to be ready come on let’s do this the first you today to decision that we make as Christians is we try to be upon a savior oh my god it’s absolutely not like we see somebody and when I Danny Christ’s and then we go and try and evangelize we use ourselves and in fact Jellicle tool in order to win them over for the kingdom yeah are we trying to win them for you have to check the motive because sometimes you have the question are you consistent in your approach in the way that you’re trying to win people or are you seeing someone the lust of the flesh cause you to feel like I want that person but first he needs to be a Christian so that you do all yeah like if we’re gonna be going out and winning song you have to be consisted in our pros yeah not just the atraxi one you know don’t be there oh she’s nice let me go in evangelize but you don’t do that with the ugly ones in your mind like seriously it’s not okay and I feel like us as believers we do that and then we got ourselves in the hot water what will your nation will someone who loves you whether they love God yeah and then make you an idol and make you their everything and then over time you start feeling oppression that this person is only happy when I’m happy when I’m dancing but I will see the joy from the Lord that every Steven is solely from you yeah and then you feel the burden and you make yourself into just an idol and then another stupid mistake that we make as Christians when dating is that we go to church and we think yeah he’s a Christian so I can date and that’s it that’s the only criteria criteria they have to be in the physical church building and that means they could be my mind the thing is don’t be naive just because someone is in the same building did not believe that they believe the same thing that you do you still have to go through the qualification fight yep quite a fire you know do they generally love Jesus what’s the character saying do we believe that have the same goals you know all these kind of things that you need in order for a relationship to where you can’t it be like Christian God is gonna sew everything out no you saw they’re open to see things the way he sees things natural lens oh because he’s in this physical building he must be [Laughter] another stupid dating decision that we make as Christians in that we think are the higher the position that they’re in no holy are they they are and those are searching for yeah let’s give them the benefit of the doubt yeah I think the true intention is that you say I want a man of God now you go into all this thing but then we look how he’s a kid one night right where can I see up the native or I see a pasta oh I feel why should leader yeah II think they are the holy ones because that doing physical external yeah worship which is fine but we need to make sure that there’s something deeper going on at their heart and I know it’s easy to get distracted by you know their gifts and everything but is the character that made them because even in the church context people get promoted for that gives them but not necessarily for the sanctification and what certification is all about it’s about the pureness of your heart allowing the Holy Spirit to do a work in you so we basically have to go through the same process or qualifying you didn’t know Jesus or the passion about him do they and how was the character saying did we have the same values and all that kind of stuff yes we have to still qualify the relationship between games one more first like each other I really didn’t want to like him because he wasn’t spiritual enough yeah and it’s because I was looking for the external acts in Bible study you didn’t say a word and he wouldn’t you know I don’t know all the external things I oh I want needed in a person he did not have but internally oh my god he’s a character Anabella was nice enough to have a conversation with me and love dismissing me because I wasn’t on a platform yeah sharing the gospel I’m so grateful that God literally pushed me towards games and actually helps me see the heart in the same position does not mean that they’re the most probably of them now we have to look beneath the surface and what actually going on behind closed doors another stupid dated decision we make as Christians is that we’ll be praying against temptation but we’re walking right into the door close inside each opportunity a door is an opportunity for you to say you know I’m not doing this any turn away opening doors next do you know you’re pregnant this is what we’re doing wrong God has given us so many obstacles so that we resist temptation but we wait until we’re right close to the cliff and when I go me and it’s too late just enjoying it no to the sin resist temptation from way before star praise way only put barriers in place that we do not embarrass physical barriers it doesn’t have an accountability to you or some actions yeah another stupid thing that we do as Christians is we pray more than we talk to us fast yeah their demands will be flying okay because they see cream is fruit you think again which is just praying and serving in charge yeah you don’t want your boring yeah there’s no fun in your relationship there’s no conversation but you want to be that we need to be here reading my Bible there’s no time [Laughter] Liv wants us to really enjoy this life as well and he give us it’ll give us the joy to enjoy but it’s just like some people lady mountain but the con even just to cool their spouse is the thing is that also on a serious note like sometimes we can go through difficulties in our relation and we need to actually talk about yes prep I first got it can give you the garden and you know – you know silence a tongue when you want to give a all that kind of stuff but we need to actually confront each other and talk about it could just be spraying in the room next door and thinking that everything is gonna change all the time and it’s just the how about prayer together right do pray know what to talk to you running out in them brings freedom and I feel like some people are so in their own individual relationship with God that they forget that I actually need to communicate my sometimes get better and I also think why even Jesus himself was a hundred percent God and a hundred percent man he could have sent good he had true connection with the father but then he still humbled himself so that he can provide a relationship with the people that understand is that God is right there he is our Father we can call upon him all our times of need but we also have a spouse that needs our community and our connection you know keep flourish in a keep drawing closer to each other could we have our spiritual needs but we also have the physical and emotional needs that we need in this relation so we can’t just be out here doing on the spiritual stuff and we’re not actually trying to meet each other emotional or physical means we make as Christians is thinking we’re husband or wife before would even arrived the altar again people do with good intentions but he’s always said before you get oh when you’re dating you know you need to take it seriously you need to be considering married but just be mindful you’re not yet mine and I think in a dating phase we’re still screening each other and there might be certain things that like lychee you cannot stand you can be like I only know and some people just really turn up and then forced me until they actually get married and then you’re stuck know if you’re dating and you don’t like certain things mission to me and I think people here game vanilla said you know God said I use my husband and then we use and now that to overlook all the flaws and all the on christ-like attitude character that that person has and maybe you might have gotten wrong maybe they would not go to go be like oh we think we have to force it or there’s pressure with family it’s like all funny in a relationship so you think that the date surveys actually you can’t be married but no opportunities for us to qualify further and understand is this a person that I want to fully admit you also look internally and you think that there might be a sense of insecurity yeah someone is trees so bad yeah yeah you you be happy say oh this is my boyfriend yeah yeah it’s really scary so I think the dates in season is actually a time to my house or or how long your ends up being is the time to qualify Furman and understand yeah are we willing to get into this serious commitment that is marriage because I think because of the pressure or seeing yourselves husband or wife but maybe you ready you know said that in your head that oh I can’t go out the situation yes you can honey yes you get this so guys we hope you enjoyed that and we hope that you can avoid the stupid mistakes that Christians make when they’re dating because I love them I’m Elise you’re gonna apply some of them myself [Laughter] you [Music]