5 Lies Culture Tells Christian Singles

when you’re single it often feels like the world is against you every pop song TV show and movie tell some pernicious lies about what you should be doing with both your body and your relationships let’s take a look at five of those lives number one you should be ashamed of chastity a lot of comedies revolve around helping the main character to lose his virginity from American Pie to the 40 year old virgin it’s considered an embarrassment at best if you make it out of high school with your virginity intact that’s why you get Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey deciding he needs to remedy Anastasia Steele’s virginity immediately or the incredibly socially awkward Garrett in yahoo’s community screaming out I’m getting laid losing your virginity culture tells us is a big deal it’s this secret right into normal functional society but that’s also why you get young men who have commented on the covenant ice blog who contemplate going to a prostitute just so that they can say they’re no longer a virgin or in extreme circumstances you get people like Elliot Rodger who was consumed by bitterness that the hot women of the world completely ignored him they didn’t seem to give him a second glance despite his expensive clothes and his BMW women somehow still preferred idiot jocks over him with his obvious intellectual superiority finally in 2014 he went on a rampage murdering six people as an act of retribution on all the women who had ever denied him sex this entire premise is ridiculous what’s wrong with being choosy or believing that an omnipotent and extremely personal God may have a better plan for your sexuality than Judd Apatow lie number two you need some sort of sexual release now this is clearly related to the first line not only do most people assume that you’re no longer a virgin by the time you hit your 20s they also assume that you’re involved in some sort of sexual activity if it’s not a committed relationship it’s some friends of benefits scenario or like in American Pie when some characters famously masturbate using food and musical instruments in How I Met Your Mother Barney Stinson has sex with almost every woman he can and at one point shows his commitment to a particular woman by giving away his porn collection it’s true even singles have sex drives but it’s not true that we need to let our sexuality rule us we were given brains so let’s do our thinking with that and not with any other body part line number three there’s nothing wrong with sleeping around as long as you use protection singles are often told that one of the joys of singleness is that you can sleep with whomever you want when everyone that’s how you wind up with characters like Casey in 27 dresses who thinks that the primary advantage of wearing a bridesmaid’s dress is having a groomsmen grip it off of his teeth ted mosby from How I Met Your Mother maybe slightly more discerning than the notorious womanizer Barney from the same show but even he pursues sex very early on in relationships including a friends-with-benefits set up with one of the main female characters and having kids long before he makes any sort of commitment to their mother yeah sure go ahead and sleep around even if you ignore the fact that sleeping around breaks what pope john paul ii calls the complete gift of self it’s not like you’re putting yourself an increased risk for contracting an STD or an unwanted pregnancy women with five or more partners are eight times more likely to contract an STD than women with only one partner 37 percent of teen girls and 18 percent of teen boys with three or more partners have been involved in some kind of pregnancy the fourth line you’re somehow incomplete until you’re married have you ever read The Great Gatsby long arcing the movie Jay Gatsby spends several years building up enormous wealth then he throws these lavish parties just so that he can win back a woman who’s already married to someone else so apparently you could be the richest person in the world but clearly that’s meaningless unless there’s someone special by your side yep life is clearly meaningless if you’re not married pretty sure that’s exactly what motivated all the famous singles in history like Jane Austen or Queen Elizabeth the first or Florence Nightingale or Isaac Newton even Beethoven or I don’t know the Pope right so here’s our last line number five you must be a loser if you’re alone have you ever noticed that single and loser always go hand in hand in movies like never been kissed or the duck there’s always something wrong with the single ones they’re either too fat or too ugly or too plain and they need to go through some magical transformation in order to be worthy of getting a boyfriend so if you’re neither sleeping around nor in a long-term relationship obviously there’s something wrong with you because you know that’s exactly why the Apostle Paul wrote in first Corinthians chapter 7 that he wished everyone was single like he was these are just a handful of the lies that we have to reject about singleness to learn more about what the bible says about singleness and how to overcome pornography temptations get the free ebook from covenant eyes more than single finding purpose beyond porn you