What is a HUSBAND’S ROLE in MARRIAGE? | CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE ADVICE

hey guys did you know that over the last 40 years the divorce rate more than doubled globally how terrible is that especially if a couple has children imagine the pain that they’re going through I believe the biggest reason for divorce today is because people leave God outside of the marriage instead of keeping him in the center of the marriage and many men today don’t even know what their role is in a marriage to have a healthy and successful marriage now marriage is supposed to be one of the most amazing gifts that this life has one of the best things that you will ever experience but if you don’t know how to have a healthy marriage it can be one of the worst experiences of your life and it can cause a lot of hurt and regret so in this video we’re going to look at the Bible to see what the role of the husband is in marriage let’s get to it [Music] all right so what is the role of the husband in marriage well let’s get straight into the but let’s go to Ephesians 5 verse 25 husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her so you have to love your wife the same way that Jesus Christ loved the church I’m gonna come back to this a little bit later and explain it let’s continue so he says husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word that he might present her to himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing but that she should be holy and without blemish so husband’s ought to love their own wives as their own bodies he who loves his wife loves himself from no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it just as the Lord does the church for we are members of his body of his flesh and of his bones for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh this is a great mystery but I speak concerning Christ and the church nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband not it’s interesting that God says here that a husband should love his wife not just once but he says it three times and the love that he’s speaking about here is agape which means unconditional love the same love that Jesus Christ has for the church for us and Jesus himself says in Matthew 19 verse 4 to 6 have you not read that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female and said for this reason a man leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh so then they are no longer two but one flesh therefore what God has joined together let no man separate so marriage is very very very important for God and he sees marriage as a promise between a husband and a wife but also to God himself and for you as a man it is a promise that you make to one wife it’s one woman that you choose to be with for your whole life now the world the sinful world doesn’t see it this way when they get tired or they feel like them I’m not I’m not happy with this marriage they just divorce and we all know the devastating effect it has on not just the husband but the wife and also the children for their whole lives I have a lot of friends that mum and dad went for divorce and they still struggle with certain issues just because of the divorce so across the world the divorce rate more than doubled in the last 40 years and thousands and thousands of kids lives are just turned upside down and that hurt that hurt they’re gonna carry that for many years to come and it’s gonna influence also their future relationships with their husband or their wives but as a Christian I hope that you understand just how important the marriage is to God and to your wife and your kids now if you’re not married yet you need to understand that choosing the right wife is one of the most important decisions that you can make of your whole life falling in love now that’s easy but staying in love that is not so easy that’s difficult God doesn’t say hey just love your wife whenever you feel like it he says you have to love her the same way that Jesus Christ loved the church this kind of love is unconditional Jesus loves me and you even if we sin and so you should also love your wife even if she makes mistakes and believe me she will make a lot of them as will you expect your wife to forgive you whenever you make a mistake then even do you also forgive your wife seven multiply 70 times which means unconditionally we tend to think that our wives should be perfect and our marriage should be perfect and that’s funny because that’s not what God says in the Bible he says that we as humans are not perfect you see in marriage you have two imperfect beings that come together in marriage with two imperfect minds both them still have a sinful nature and sometimes when those two sinful natures clash you get chaos and that is why a healthy marriage should be based on God and His Word proverbs 3 verse 5 says trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding [Music] now unforgiveness is one of the biggest causes of divorce in the world today but you need to listen to God and you need to forgive your wife even if you don’t feel like it and not just your wife but also other people the Ephesians 4 verse 31 says let all bitterness wrath anger clamor and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice verse 32 and be kind to one another tender-hearted and forgive one another even as God in Christ forgave you so he’s not just talking about forgiveness here but the way that you talk to other people you treat people he says here bitterness wrath anger clamor evil speaking that all of those things be put away so be careful with the way that you speak to your wife don’t be harsh if you don’t treat your wife with understanding then your prayers might not be answered that’s how serious this is for God 1 Peter 3 verse 7 says husband’s likewise dwell with them them meaning wives with understanding giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of life now listen to this that your prayers may not be hindered you know it’s interesting for me that I’ve seen a lot of Christian men say that they are doing this for God they’re doing that for God everything is about God but at the same time their marriage life is struggling back at home it’s not healthy at all because they don’t treat their wives the right way if you want to do things for God get your home life in order first so that your prayers will be answered and also there’s gonna come times when you’re gonna need the support of your wife a lot of men think that they are the boss in the marriage and that the wives should just listen to them but that’s not biblical at all yes the Bible does say that the husband is the head of the home but that means a leader right but only in the way that Jesus Christ is head over the church that is a very very big responsibility we read in Ephesians 5 verse 23 for the husband is a head of the wife as also Christ is head of the church and he is the savior of the body let me tell you if you leave your wife and your children the way that Jesus leads the church then your wife and your kids will love you and they will gladly follow you as the leader your wife wouldn’t mind at all because it means that you unconditionally love her did you only want the best for her that you’re a kind that you were a humble forgiving and that you will gladly offer your own life for her any woman out there respect such a man because it brings stability and trust into the marriage it is your responsibility as the husband to let God’s will be done in the marriage and also in a home with your kids and your actions towards your wife what you think what you say what you do should always be in line with God’s Word if you say something that is contrary to the Bible if you act outside the will of God then she has all the right in the world to talk to you and ask you to get back to God’s Word and to be a good leader for the home where Christ is in the center yes your role as the husband he’s the leader of the home so as you are the head of the home Jesus Christ is the head of you and you have to obey Him and let his will be done in your home let me mention another thing here a lot of divorces are caused by men who are unfaithful but a godly man is faithful to his wife he’s wife you know I’ve heard some Christian men say yeah I’m married but I can still look be very very careful here listen very carefully to what you’re saying because that is not the Spirit of God talking that is the sinful nature talking but Jesus says you have heard that it was said to those of old he shall not commit adultery but I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart enjoy your own wife God gave us sex as something to enjoy with in the marriage if you look at proverbs 5 the whole chapter talks about this talks about the importance of staying faithful to your own wise proverb 5 starts with my son pay attention to my wisdom lend your ear to my understanding that you may preserve discretion and your lips may keep knowledge for the lips of an immoral woman drip honey and her mouth is smoother than oil but in the end she is bitter as wormwood sharp as a two-edged sword her feet go down to death her steps lay hold of hell let you ponder her path of life her ways are unstable you do not know them sometimes the grass on the other side of the fans always look greener but it never is later on to the chapter he talks a little bit more and he says in verse 15 drink water from your own cistern and running water from your own well meaning your own wife in verse 18 he says let your fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of your youth as a loving deer and a graceful doe let her breasts satisfy you at all times he goes on you can read the chapter in your own time because it is so important to stay faithful to your own wife in the data we live in divorce rate more than doubled over the last 40 years that’s crazy and you can see the effects of that in the society that we live in today how society is changing I’m so thankful that God gave me a godly woman I’ve been married for the last ten years and I can say with confidence that a healthy marriage is nothing else but a blessing from God as long as Jesus Christ is in the center of it and if I can give you some of some advice if you sometimes struggle in some situations things get heated and you’re not sure how to act or how to even communicate to your wife at a certain moment in time at that moment change the way that you look at your wife and ask yourself this how does God see my wife right now and what would he say to her this always calms me down and it helps me to take myself a little bit outside of the situation and think more objectively about it and this is important because God says that marriage should be build on agape love which means unconditional love agape is a Greek word and it’s referring to the highest form of love there is is the love that Jesus Christ has for you but you know God also gave us a soul with emotions with intellect and our own will and in our soul also lies romantic love and all women are crazy about passionate love about romance and this is called eros in the Greek so do special things for your wife be romantic open the car door bring her flowers without her expecting it and tell her often that you love her some men don’t need to hear all the time from their wives that their love but women do and remember the happy wife equals happy husband you do have a health in a good marriage you need both agape love and eros love but agape love is the most important love because unconditional love carries you through all those hard times that you encounter and then later you can storge love which is the love between family that comes naturally the love between parents and their children between brothers and sisters but if you don’t understand fully what agape love really is then listen to how Paul describes it in 1 Corinthians 13 because this is the love you need to be a good husband 1 Corinthians 13 verse 4 love suffers long and is kind love does not envy love does not parade itself it’s not puffed up doesn’t behave rudely does not seek its own is not provoked and thinks no evil does not rejoice in iniquity but rejoices in the truth bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love never fails wow I couldn’t have said it any better put God first in your marriage and you will automatically love your wife and be a good husband and just lastly because summin summin out there do believe this a man is not more important than his wife in God’s eyes you and your wife they’re equal but you have different roles if you go back in the Bible at the start in Genesis we read that God made man male and female and he made both of them in his image and so if God says that we are both made in His image in that cells in respect the role that God gave your wife in the marriage she is a gift from God after all so treat her the way God wants you to treat your wife and he will be a great husband and remember your action in the marriage creates your wife’s reaction usually our sinful nature tend to think my wife is not doing this right my wife should be more like this if only my wife was like that but you should start with yourself ask yourself what can you do to make the marriage better according to the Word of God now remember to subscribe if there’s the first time that you’re here on my channel and I’ll see you in the next video and remember god loves you and I love you too church guys consecrate Lord to thee