Our First Date & Christian Dating Tips!

on this video Emily and I share with you the story of our very first date and we give you guys some practical Christian dating tips check it out everyone welcome to another episode of that Christian vlogger and today Emily is with me and we’re gonna share with you guys another story the last episode we share with you guys the story about how we first met and we asked you guys what story you would want to hear next and you everyone basically said yeah how did our first date go and so we’re going to share with you guys a little bit about that sorry real quick about all look the mess in the house we are in the process of moving and um you know basically get anything all packed up so there’s like boxes in the back and stuff like that and so that’s what I want to show you guys a quick story and we hope you guys enjoy okay so first date right it was like basically a week after we had met at the speed-dating event right yeah so we just met at the speed dating events we exchanged each other’s contact and then um I actually reached out to you first yeah I’m old-fashioned that’s good so we waited I waited like a day or two to call her and I was like hey let’s meet up and then we decided to do lunch yeah like lunch you went to a Thai food restaurant um and as a Friday afternoon and basically we just sat for probably about three hours and just had conversations about our lives leading up to that moment um our passions kind of where we’ve seen God leading us and stuff like that how did you feel going into the UH into the date I was a little nervous I fixed my hair real nice because usually my hair doesn’t look very nice um yeah I didn’t dress up too much just like jeans and a sweater maybe and did you do any like homework on me beforehand um I liked before I called her I did like the whole Facebook stalking stuff and like looking through photos and one of the things that stood out to me actually that she didn’t mention in our speed-date when we first met was that she actually could play the instruments and sing and stuff like that so I found yeah the instruments I saw her on Facebook doing like some special music sat in church playing the piano and singing them stuff like oh this is kind of nice yeah and for him the same thing I kind of Facebook stalking with my girlfriends and I was living with like three other housemates at the time out girls and we’re all just like on Facebook stalking and I saw was very active you rock-climb keep by he rode bikes he did like a lot of active things and like oh that’s awesome like to be active too so so I got there a little bit early and I’m like obviously nervous and like just wondering how this is gonna go and how it’s gonna work out and we end up talking and yeah I felt like we really hit it off like what were some things that set out to you about me some of the things were um you were really into weightlifting at the time so like I’m like why I’ve never heard of this weightlifting Olympic sport like woah I really thought he was like a Olympian at first and like well but then he kind of described it more like okay that’s so cool you like competes and stuff and he’s really into CrossFit and like well never even tried CrossFit like scary his type of a thing um he also had like conversations about how we like really accepted Christ for the first time in our lives and the impact of those moments so yeah and Emily was sharing a little bit about like the story of one of her brothers who was like a really big impact on her life and how like that helped her to like really want to follow after God and stuff like that and it was kind of cool just to see that that background now if not the entire time that we were having the meal like Emily it was it was so fun she just kept glowing and glowing and like whenever we would say something and like I would say something about me and then she would share the same thing about her she don’t look oh my goodness we have so much in common I think like the main thing though that I was really surprised about was that he’s a vegetarian and I grew up vegetarian and usually like when you meet like Filipinos especially they’re usually not vegetarian or group that way which he didn’t but even among the Adventist Church for both seventh-day Adventist and a lot of people are vegetarian but then there’s probably 50% that aren’t vegetarian either it’s usually a common thing to be vegetarian if you’re a penis but so like all the guys I’ve kind of been interested in the pastor dated have eaten meat and they’re still Adventist and you were born and raised vegetarian right yeah so I’m like when I thought he was vegetarian I was so happy cuz I’m like wow I can like eat the same things we can cook meals together instead of like having I order one dish in your anything yeah so that was really awesome that’s why you always like stealing my food whenever we go out to eat like I didn’t do this on the first date but like I think it’s harder for me like later on as we started dating a little bit more like I would always like hey do you want like I’m gonna get some fries do you want some fries like no I’m good I’m like okay cool so I get my order french fries next thing I know that it goes Emily’s hands like a region I’m like good idea what are you doing yeah yeah I just want something like now I was gonna get you some if you wanted some yeah I’m just as good so I just like to taste everything oh yeah I think so yeah so I thought the entire date she’s like oh we have so what you got and like to me I was just like wow like this is really cool cuz I was in like a couple like the the relationships I were prior to Emily like it was really kind of touching but it wasn’t really like I didn’t really connect with them on the same mob like I was interested in them but I felt like I was kind of having to convince the other person like oh no like let’s give it a shot or what are the cases and no one wants to be in in that type of relationship no one wants to feel like the only reason why they’re there is because you have to like convince something you want someone that likes you for you and I definitely did get that feeling from from that from that meal from that conversation mm-hmm do you want tell them what happened after the meal oh yeah yeah okay so we have this meal we were talking for for quite some time and um basically at some point like towards the end of our conversation the waitress or waiter I forget comes in and like taps me on the shoulder and like we’re looking at each other and she tapped me on the shoulder and I kind of look back I’m like hey what’s going on she’s like um do either of you happen to know the people that were sitting behind me and I look back and like the table is empty and I’m like no I didn’t really notice and of course you know like you kind of go into the restaurant and you’re just like got your butterflies in your stomach and you’re all nervous out of the cases and I’m like no I didn’t even know who was there or whether the cases and she’s like well that’s really weird and Emily didn’t know them either and the waitress was like yeah um they just told me that they wanted to pay for your entire meal and that they wanted to get you guys does – and a slight whoa what that’s so cool and for me like in that moment that gets kind of hard like I didn’t want to read into it too much like I was at the same time I’m just like what are the odds of that happening this is so cool and I remember just thinking to myself I was like okay God like I’m listening like I’m okay I don’t know what you’re trying to say in this but now like I feel like even more so you’ve got my attention it’s just kind of one of the cool ways I feel like God just like showers is blessing on us and in a moment I really felt like God was kind of like giving me the week like hey check it out like this girl is pretty cool and I’m gonna kind of give you a little something on top of that so we had the meal and stuff like that mm-hmm so it was really awesome yeah the whole thing was cool yeah it was a good time and now we just we always loved eating Thai food like it’s our favorite thing we had Thai food at our wedding reception no our rehearsal dinner yeah yeah the night before our wedding yeah so you’re like we love Thai food so if any of you guys own Thai restaurants out there and you want to sponsor the vlog that would be amazing so I mean that was our first date it was a lot of fun and who would have guessed just such a short time after that we ended up getting married I mean now okay so this is kind of crazy maybe you guys wanted to talk about this in like one of our future story time videos but from the day that I met Emily at the speed-dating event exactly one year after that’s when we got married so so things actually really moved very very quickly for us um yeah from from start to finish boom married one year and we moved out to the East Coast and now we’re moving all the way back to the West Coast and it’s just like it’s been a wild roller coaster ride but it’s been it’s been a lot of fun and so we hope you guys enjoy this storytime and if you would like us to do more storytime to give us some ideas in the comments section below let us know what kind of stories you would like to hear from us and we’ll continue doing that so until next time on that Christian vlogger and I want to encourage you guys to experience faith in the first person godless Oh real quick before we go we actually found to be kind of fun for us to reflect on maybe a lesson or two that we learned from our first dates for many of you guys you guys are still in that like dating phase and you want to do maybe in a more Christian way of approaching relationships and dating so what’s a take-home that you have for our friends here I think on the first date don’t be shy about opening up like your passions your interests even talk about God maybe don’t go into like your deepest darkest secrets on the first date but like don’t you do that yeah yeah once we are kind of like more getting into the engagement phase cuz like you want to know everything about that person before you commit your life to living with them like but on the first be on the first date be open like don’t because like you want the major values to align if you want to go for it from there yeah this is really really good I think a lot of people wait until like later in their dating relationship to talk about serious things like I want to want to freak them out like oh they’re gonna think I’m a weirdo or one of the cases but the truth is at least from our perspective dating wasn’t like a game dating wasn’t just something that was just like oh you know something I’m gonna do on the side as I do my life no dating really should be I think something that is like you can learn a lot about and it really should have some type of the purpose and so like it’s probably not the best idea to like date someone for like six months or a year and then start talking about serious things because what happens if those like same values don’t line up yeah what if you don’t have the same purpose in life or the same vision or outlook on your relationship with god but you’re already so like emotionally invested with this other person physically and massive – that’s true and then and that makes it so much harder to like to end things it makes it so much harder to break up because you’re so invested you don’t want to call it quits after spending all this time so I definitely agree with that I think that’s really good like start off the relationship on the right foot you know you can obviously get to know each other but if your relationship with God is an important thing like that shouldn’t be something that you hide in your relationship with someone else that should in my in our opinion that should be like at the very beginning that should be in the forefront of your relationship with other people so hopefully that was helpful we’ll see you guys next time