What Should You Do When You Like Someone? 3 Important Christian Dating Tips

what should the Christian do when they like somebody in this video I’m gonna give you three pointers on some action steps you can actually take when you start getting those feelings and you really like somebody or you’re just kind of interested hey everybody I’m Marc from apply God’s Word calm a place where we apply the Bible to your life if you’re new to this channel consider subscribing or making new videos just like this every single week we talk a lot about relationships singleness Christian marriage calling and all types of things like that so if you’re interested again don’t forget to hit that subscribe button before this video is over so I have three points on this topic and I if you go through my videos on this channel we talked a lot about this topic and so I’m gonna try to give some general principles rather than get really super specific like I sometimes often do so the first thing you’re gonna want to do when you like somebody or you’re interested in them is pray about it and consult the Word of God so a lot of times we start coming up with action steps before we really know what the Bible says and so when you study the Word of God and you get a principle or a truth that should direct how you interact in relationships that’s the first thing that you should consider in the equation of what you should do next so for example a real clear command in Scripture is that you should only marry a Christian if you’re a Christian and then it gives us a lot of qualifiers of who real Christians are you go to the Galatians 5 and you look at the fruits of the Spirit and you can see this is what a mature Christian looks like so for example when you go to the word and you see these principles and then you assess this person who you’re interested in you you can then say okay this is what the Bible says this person does express the fruits of the spirit or this person is a Christian and you go through the Bible and you see what principles there are the next thing you’re going to want to do is you’re going to want to pray about how God wants you to apply those principles because the Bible doesn’t talk about dating it doesn’t talk about how to pursue someone in a specific way but it does give us principles that it should affect every aspect of our life so you read the word and then you pray about what God may be saying to you about what he wants you to do point to is you’re going to want to create a tentative plan based upon what you’ve learned through studying the word and pray so this is where a lot of times people drop the ball they understand what the Word of God actually says but they struggle with putting that to work and actually like letting the rubber meet the road so to speak and actually do something with it so you want to create a tentative plan and then follow through on that plan so let’s say for example you pray about it you sense like God’s releasing you to try to pursue this girl that maybe you like or maybe if you’re a woman you feel like yes I’m interested and there’s no biblical reason not to be open to this well then you create a tentative plan you say all right maybe I’m gonna become friends with this person over the next two months and I’ll assess it after that and if things are going well I’ll ask that person out on a date and if things aren’t going well I’ll just kind of know it wasn’t meant to be and then you go out and execute that plan now notice in the beginning of point two I said a tentative plan I mean you can change the plan when you learn new information one big mistake I often see with Christian singles is that they feel they that God said something to them and then they are committed to that one specific word from God and they are unable to change from that original word that they felt like some people feel like Oh God told me that person’s we’re gonna get married and then for like three years they hold on to that truth even though the circumstances in their life like reflect nothing of what they think God said to them so when we’re creating a plan and when we’re trying to figure out what we should do we should be humble enough to know that a few can happen one a we can hear God wrong like we’re not apostles we didn’t write the scriptures we aren’t errant we can make mistakes and sometimes we just have to humble ourselves and say you know what maybe I didn’t hear God accurately because this isn’t happening the other thing is we have to realize that God can tell you something and then he can change that sometimes he can say yeah go pursue that girl and I want you to ask her out on a date and then she says no and then you’re like what wait I thought you said I was supposed to ask her out well maybe he did and then he wanted you to ask her out so that you could get the information that you got now which is it wasn’t meant to be so a lot of times we we get too far ahead of ourselves and we do hear God accurately but we misinterpret what that means so maybe God says yes be open to dating that guy and then nothing happens does that mean you heard God wrong well it’s possible but maybe you heard God right and he just wanted you to be open to it and then it didn’t happen so you have to be able to adjust your plan when God gives you new information actually talked a lot about this in my new book called the 1 and in this book I go over three different ways that God speaks and it’s through his word through the Holy Spirit and through our circumstances and the one I think people often maybe don’t know as much about is the circumstances God is sovereign and he’s in control of what’s happening and sometimes he gives us information on what he wants us to do based upon what’s actually happening in real life so when you create a plan you go do that plan and then things happen in real life then you assess that plan and change that plan according to the new information that you’ve been given rather than just like legalists legalistically sticking to that plan no matter what because you feel like that’s exactly what God told me we have to hold these things more loosely when we’re trying to walk through this with the lord and 0.3 is advice that i often give it onto this channel and that’s once you feel released by God to actually do something or you don’t feel like there’s a big red flag and you don’t feel like there’s a no then my advice is do something like don’t just wait forever like maybe wait for a period of time and nothing’s happening do something ask them out on a date go interact with them send them a text friend of my facebook or whatever do something because when you do something you gather information on reality like if you’re just sitting at home all the time wondering what’s gonna happen you’re you’re missing out on the information you could be gathering about this situation okay well if I spent more time with this guy I’d realized he actually like this other person or oh if I spent more time on this girl I actually realized you know she really likes me and we should go for faster because now I know that she’s interested as well but if you never actually do something and you’re just waiting for God to were actually intervene then you know that’s going to slow down the process quite a bit so number one pray about it and study his word number two come up with a tentative plan follow through on the plan and then change their plan based upon the new information that you get and in summary number three even though I’m holding out for somehow number three is you want to actually do something right go out interact and you’ll gather new information which will help guide you on what you’re supposed to do when you like this person well again I’m mark from a PI guys were calm really hope you enjoyed this video we’re making videos like this every single week so if you’re interested make sure you hit that subscribe button and maybe even hit that little Bell so YouTube will give you a little notification every time we make a new 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