Christian Dating Advice: Never Settle & Don’t Rush

hi beautiful people today I wanted to share with you some of my best dating advice because I have dated I dated in high school and then I had a pretty serious relationship last year right here at school and I’ve learned a lot from those relationships and I thought why not share some of that some advice with you since I’ve learned so much in and I’ve learned so much for my friends and their relationships as well so I thought why not compile all this stuff together and share it in a video so let’s start the first one that I have for you is to be intentional anything that you do in this world like if you’re a Christian like you should be intentional about it whether this be you raising your children in a certain way or your job or dating like you should be intentional about it I guess before you get into relationship think about your intentions like why are you thinking about dating this person or why do I want to date them if you’re thinking just for fun like I’m dating this person just to have a good time or whatever that’s probably not a super great reason to get into a relationship but if you’re thinking you know this could be someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with then that could be a good reason to get into relationship with in whatever you do like your life should be about bringing glory to God and so if you think a certain person in this world could help you to grow in your relationship with God and bring more glory to him then I say go for it um but if it’s not for your reason like that or for an intentional reason then I would say probably don’t get into a relationship with in number two is to not rush the physical stuff and just into the relationship in general there are so many times in the Bible where people tried to get ahead of God’s plan and tried to rush what God had planned for them and things just never worked out too well and I think that what you can take from that message that’s in the Bible is not to rush God never rushes he’s always very patient and he wants us to be patient as well the best example I can think of for this is how when a mother has a baby um it takes nine months for that baby to grow in her womb and nine months to develop and to grow and that’s because beautiful things take time like what this has to do with dating is not to rush but to be patient and just like take time to get to know someone before you rush into a relationship and before you rush into the physical stuff for me like whenever I start talking to someone I always say that I like to go really slowly in terms of like physical and like in terms of getting into a relationship with them because like from the get-go then they know that I like to go slowly even just like holding hands and hugging like kissing I likes to wait and like take a couple months to really get to know that person and know who they are and feel comfortable around them before I start to do that stuff and that’s not something a lot of people do and like a lot of people think I’m kind of weird for that like even my friends think that’s kind of weird but like I really like to get to know someone before I start doing that stuff let me tell you like it’s really hard not to want to hug them not to hold their hand and stuff but like I have found it so rewarding when you get to know the person before you do the physical stuff because then like once I do get into a relationship with them we do like hold hands we do hug that’s like it’s so like worth it for me I think in like I found like the people that I’ve dated have agreed with that and they have been so glad that we went too slowly because it’s helped our like it’s helped our focus not to be on just like the physical helped us to focus on each other and really getting to know one another and I want to say with this really fast before it forget um I do not judge you if like you don’t like follow my same morals and like stuff I I definitely am not judging you if you’ve gone farther than you’ve wanted to or like maybe you just don’t have the same morals as me like I want you to know that I do not judge you and like I do not think I’m better than you at all I always want to say that just because like I never want to come across as that way and like my videos and stuff the third and last one is to never settle set your expectations very high for the kind of person that you want to get into a relationship with or you know for the future like you want to marry because like you are a great person you’re an amazing person and you deserve someone who is as equally great as you are know your Worth and don’t settle for someone that you don’t like don’t settle for someone because you’re lonely I can tell you and I can tell you this with full assurance that dating someone that you don’t like or dating someone that you’re only dating because you’re lonely not going to fulfill you it’s not going to fill you up or bring you happiness like it might bring you a little bit of happiness for a little while but like it’s not going to last don’t settle like honestly like so many people settle but like you and they like deserve people who are great and like people who aren’t going to just play with your heart people who aren’t just going to use you for physical stuff or anything like that like you deserve someone who’s going to treat you right who’s gonna help you grow close to God and who’s going to honor like your morals and respects your morals and does respect you as a person but yeah those are my three tips be intentional don’t rush and never settle I hope that you take those to heart and like you really think about why you want to date someone in the intentions behind it and and I really hope that you never settle because you do deserve someone who’s great yeah that’s it for me for this video um I honestly hope you have a great day in a great week remember that you are worth that like you deserve someone great I just want to like reiterate that okay you are great have a great day and know that you are so loved and so beautiful you Oh