Celibate Courtship Q&A |Going on Vacation Celibate Recap| Godly / Christian Dating

my lips look so wet enough chapstick I wasn’t gonna do it [Music] hi everyone welcome back to my channel as you can see I have a very special somebody helping me out with today’s video again yeah so yeah so first I’m going to thank everyone for tuning in thank you why do you look giving in thank you guys so much I’m we’ve been getting a lot of feedback and comments and just positive positive feedback on our going on vacation stuff in videos and a lot of you have been asking questions so if you haven’t watched that video I encourage you to watch that one first because it’s kind of a follow up one to that one so I’ll link it here and also below in the description box so if you haven’t watched that video check that one out first cuz these questions are based off of that video all right so question number one did you guys kiss during the wait you know we did kiss just kisses on the cheek kisses on the forehead or even like lip pegs but no like yeah and you know hand kisses those were good just something where I could show some kind of affection where she knew that yeah you look good yeah I like you you my girl and you know so I just have to let me know like the whole kissing thing like it’s important to communicate that make if you know gonna make you want to go farther than that then I don’t be afraid to communicate communicate that to your partner because it may not affect them like they made me fine and kissing doesn’t do thing for them but since y’all earner relationships together it’s important that you’re both on the same page and being considerate as each other is like temptations and things like that are their weakness is it because you don’t want you know both of you to fall or even have a list about right yeah you know what will allow you to be tripped up or you know what is your stumbling block so I wouldn’t if you knew that you know kissing was a problem for you don’t do that I think I just repeated the same thing you say question number two can you give us the name of the boundary but I meant to mix this up let me cool it really quick the name of the book is making dating work boundaries in dating it’s by dr. Henry cloud and dr. John Townsend I’m Alan Fisher so you can see how it looks question number three I’ll let you read that one all right did you guys get married just so you can have sex no I knew that was going to come with it of course but that wasn’t the reason why how do you maintain the balance of time with God and time with your spouse so I have to be really really intentional cuz it’s like when I say by myself like you go home and issues you there like you don’t work or whatever you do in a day you get home it’s quiet time nobody’s there except you so you have pretty much the whole evening now of course then you’re gonna like see your significant other but they’re not there so they’re not there to like distract your oh you’re here let’s just go cuddle all this just watch the TV cuz like just it’s easier to be more intentional about than it is like when someone’s always always there somebody you like huh so now who’s Ren Blair and I am asking the question and I was staying by myself woke up you know no one’s there but me yeah go see if no one’s there but so you have so much more time alone and so like a nephew Tennessee is oh and we go pray let me go worship but we get married and like someone’s there it can be easy to like oh you’re watching a movie we’ll all come and watch it with you because I want to be by you even though you weren’t even thinking about movie because like he watch the movie all the time I was never I’ve never been a big TV movie person but now I find myself watching movies because he’s watching movie so I have to think Oh typically this is my prayer time so now I have to go pray oh man you’re making it seem like I’m stopping you decision it I so I’m hugging you from praying yes I’m just saying like it can be if you see your person doing something like oh I just want to join you right now because that seems pretty cool it can be either get distracted so it’s being really intentional like I know I love you but I love God more in my relationship with him comes first and so I think it’s just a matter you have to make time you know you definitely have to make time for it’s not just gonna you know you have likes you say you have to be intentional about it so he like okay I didn’t spend time with God today so let me go read something or let me listen to some music let me get into worship let me just pray to God let me just be intimate with God instead of just you know like she say come and watch movies with me or whatever so whatever your normal routine is trying to keep that don’t try to get away from it too far because it will kind of take you will kind of let that be taking over about whatever whoever you’re with don’t let life happen and intervene with your special time with God because we think about it like God gives you your spouse like we’re so in love with him and like seeking Him and so like to let that interfere with him like oh so now you got him so you don’t know me all right is more it anymore which you know that’s far from the case but it is a scripture that backs that up I’m not sure with this verbatim but it says when you’re single you know you spend more time with God and that’s what you pretty much a test or give your time to besides your other activities and day-to-day things but when you’re married you tend to think more about your spouse and you tend to think of my pleasuring where am i pleasing where am i giving my wife what she needs or in her case it might giving my husband what he needs and pretty sure she’ll show the scripture about it on the screen so that you can know was it hard waiting or it became easy because you both knew you wanted to wait well it wasn’t hard waiting for me I was already seven years in a game well I guess it’s well I’m not as it was very difficult I have a lot of things that I could share with you guys but I’m sure I’ll probably do like a separate video I’ve had tons of temptation just thrown at me just back-to-back just it’s ridiculous you know and over this seven-year span I really really had to be before God I’m talking lots of services my church has a lot of services I would try to make all of them I was very intentional if I got to work late I would make sure that I got there to serve God and to give God my time because I knew that once I got my wife I want to make sure that I was you know in the word well and I was a very familiar and intimate with God I thought I won’t have to build that up when that time came okay I think it’s hard when you’re doing it for the wrong reason and like you’re really not before God and you’re putting your flesh before God and you don’t have boundaries I think you start to like compromise on boundaries or or even like if you’re like getting away from your time with God because like we’re you’re in a space with gods like that’s all that matters there’s like I just want to please you play that’s all that matters but if you get away from that and I think that’s when it becomes hard as if you’re like living on your flesh and not walking out of spirit right oh I would say it began to get difficult probably about two weeks outside of the wedding mainly because you know the devil is just trying to send me attacks or my mind will try to go elsewhere saying man we were about to get married you know but yeah I wouldn’t have been happy with what I did I feel like my relationship would have been flawed my marriage would have been flawed I just wouldn’t have felt good about it you know so I’m just thankful you know that God kept us through that the whole time so yeah it’s very doable if yours if your significant other isn’t willing to do that with you I wouldn’t I don’t think that would be the way to go they’re not the one god happy so they’re constantly saying hey what’s up what you’re trying to do or trying to have sex with you and you’re constantly telling them no I’m trying to wait to marry and her just eagerly trying to get at you that’s definitely not the person for you so I was safely you know as the scripture says how long were you all dating before getting married so we started dating was at 2016 so we started dating in 2016 and I proposed to her and November of 2017 so almost two years I would say so it was like a year a year in a couple of months okay you’re in a couple of months are you planning on having children yes we are planning on it so direct yes we plan on having children oh yeah definitely want to enjoy my wife yeah because once that time comes is no going back yeah no going back I love kids but I love my wife more for sure yeah remember eight did you wait till marriage to lose your virginity well no I didn’t wait to marriage I was what it sounds bad the age of twenty-one yeah bending I was just like man yeah I’m done I can’t I can’t do it anymore I’m just gonna wait until I get married so I might share they’re in another video but not in this video so stay tuned for that I guess yeah and for those of you who have watched my testimony video if you haven’t watched that one I will link it here and below that tells a large portion of my story so my answer is no I wish I had a good time cuz that would have been great and that’s how it should be anyways thank God hurry damn yeah a lot of people getting bashed or you know a certain video saying oh you weren’t even you know celibate or you weren’t even you know peer or anything like that who are you to judge people you know so everybody’s at different stages in their life long as they get right with God you know and you know confess their sins and yeah just understand that everybody goes through different things and although we weren’t virgins when we got married like we were celibate like stirring like before we started dating I was celibate throughout our courtship so it was our first time yeah and it was a conscious decision you know way before I even met her yeah he’s doing it so I’m doing it right gotta make sure your intentions are up here yes so those are all the questions we have hopefully you guys found this informative and if you asked the question you got to answer it if you have any more you can leave them below and if we get in touch with you another video I guess we always that curious so thank you for tuning in and we’ll see and one more thing just just stay hopeful you know believe in God trust God just know that that person is coming for you no matter how many people you may have come into contact with no matter how many people have dogged you or cheated on you just put your face before God seek Him love him trust him don’t get into relationships you know just just have friends you know of anything but just get before God you know and he will honor that as you honor him you know so stay before God and keep that trust will come out of nowhere trust me it definitely so our peace [Music]