Advice to Christian Singles

hi guys I’m vivacious Hannah welcome to this video so you might recognize what’s behind me because it’s where I used to fill my other videos I’m just trying this because it’s closer to the window so that means better lighting for me and I don’t know want try standing in a video for once so today I want to talk to you guys basically about what it is like to be a single Christian because I’ve had 18 years of experience so the first thing I need to mention to you guys is my new hairstyle I mean can we like appreciate it for a second it’s basically the same thing I had before just this is a little darker and my highlights go a little higher you know priorities that’s first anyways my first real point is that we shouldn’t build up unrealistic expectations if you guys are following along on my Twitter you’ll know that I try to watch a new movie every single night and a lot of them have been rom-coms you know it’s all great and everything just watching people find love or you know just watching these comedic moments it’s so easy to get wrapped up and not and be like you know I want that kind of life and that’s not fair of us to do I’ll also say this I think it’s a girl thing maybe guys do it too but I once tried to picture my dream man you know he has this feature from this guy and then this other feature from this guy and you mash them all up and okay that’s my dream man and I realized just after listing a few things that that just isn’t fair you know because I can’t limit whoever I end up being with just being like so perfect like this person that I’ve cultivated in my mind you know and I’ve kind of realized that I have a type um usually for like celebrities and stuff but I do still have a type for me it’s haired guys with light eyes I might find a blonde haired brown-eyed guy who I end up loving for the rest of my life I don’t know it could be someone completely different than what I think I like now and that’s the thing about humans is we’re always changing we’re always you know wanting something different and I think you know my parents have always said around the age of 30 is when those things start kind of slowing down and you have the same tastes you know I don’t know if anybody else feels that way but I just don’t want to you know trap any future man that I find into this box like you have to be perfect in this way this way this way this way and this way you know whoever we find isn’t gonna be perfect generally but they’re gonna be perfect for us and that brings me to my next point loneliness I’m gonna be sharing a few books with you guys first is dating Declassified by g GN gene GN mayo loneliness becomes my friend when it forces me to draw companionship from god that i would like to draw from another human being you always hear people say that it’s better to be alone than to be with the wrong person and that’s true the occasional loneliness we feel now we won’t even remember when we find that perfect person and even if there is no perfect person for you I still strongly believe that you know God will give you a fulfilling life I also want to share with you guys a story this happened three or four years ago I I think I was a sophomore in high school when this happened basically I’ll call these two guys a and B basically a was trying to slide into my facebook Messenger you know they’re not DMS but I was trying to be cool dang it anyways he was trying to talk to me and he’s like hey come over let’s hang out and I was like okay yeah that sounds great because you know I was kind of lonely and I I didn’t necessarily want a relationship from him because he’s not a Christian you know I’m pretty sure he did drugs and he was just all-around not the kind of guy that I would want speaking of which by the way that list definitely think of like you know character traits that you want if you want them to be godly kind great with kids great with animals that’s awesome a physical part we shouldn’t define anyways back to what I was talking about so it was just kind of trying to hang out with me and get me to come over and I don’t think his intentions were terrible I don’t think he was like gonna try to hook up with me or anything at least I hope not I was a sophomore that’s young I know girls out there having sex way too early now I don’t like it anyways there was this other guy B and I will admit he was like kind of famous so I mean I couldn’t have in the first place but I was just like looking at him and he had all these different qualities that I really really admired he actually wrote up I had this whiteboard in my room I wrote on it don’t settle for an A wait for a B I also like this quote um it’s actually a Bible verse but it’s in the book get lost by Dan and Gresh and I really like the way it words it because it’s from the message Bible and like I just mentioned I have the new century so it’s kind of like a different perspective it’s first Corinthians 7 17 don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else live and obey and love and believe right where you are God not your marital status to find your life you can practice and prepare for being in a relationship proverbs 31 is great for the ladies it teaches you how to be a righteous godly woman and wife you know if you take first Corinthians 13:4 for example love is patient love is kind if you take the word love out of it input in your name does it match up I’m the last point that I think I’m gonna make is just don’t force relationships and I’m gonna read from the chase by Kyle and Kelsey kopecki and this book is really good all these books are good y’all should read them it says if you like a guy but he isn’t doing anything about it resist forcing the relationship and you know you hear about all these feminists these days like oh no I’m gonna ask the man out I’m gonna make the first move and like that’s great for you I used to be interested in that myself for me it was more just like striking up a conversation like okay I’ll tell you this story cuz I know you ladies do it too you know so like I’ll be scrolling on Instagram or Twitter or something I’ll find a cute guy you know checking his bio make sure you the Christian I’m like okay okay so then you start picturing their last name attached to your first name I think we as women typically tend to do that just kind of like wonder gee what what’s my last name gonna be like is it gonna fit with my name you know what our children gonna look like what kind of husband is he gonna be is he gonna be a kind loving husband or is he gonna be more fun and outgoing you know and that’s fun to imagine but let me tell you about this one time so you know there was this guy you know across the country I wasn’t like super like hey let’s get in a relationship right now but you know I was kind of interested I was like okay maybe he’s cool maybe this is you know how my story begins with a man I tried to DM him on Instagram and it all went great except it didn’t and I wrote like this huge long paragraph just like hey I love what you’re doing for God you know if you ever want to talk about any like Bible topics Jesus topics whatever you want to call that you know um I’m hoping to talk about that you know you’re you’re cool and whatever blah blah and it was basically just kind of you know kissing his butt suck up much Hannah stop you know so I put all this thought into what I was gonna say I said it you know I I made sure it sounded intelligent and witty and fun and cool and awesome and I get a reply back thanks I was like gee could this be my future relationship you know is this how we meet and then it ends up that he’s like no back off I’m not interested it was so embarrassing I’ve since deleted that because I just can’t read it cuz I’m like stop I just kind of built up all these different qualities in me thinking like how can he resist me I mean how can anyone resist me cuz I’m fabulous but anyways it just it was so funny like looking back on it oh my gosh I’m so embarrassed and anyways that brings me to my one last example you guys know that I love Parks and Recreation Tom Haverford meets this girl Nadia something and basically like when they first meet he goes into like this British accent thing and he’s just like kind of puffing himself up he’s like alright let me show you over here you know I’m like doing all I just realized how bad that was I’m sorry to anyone over in Britain or anywhere that speaks like that please teach me how to because I like it but I just can’t do it that’s what he fakes this British accent he does all this stuff to make himself look cooler and then April ends up telling the girl later she’s like yeah he just kind of did all that to impress you if everything is different all of a sudden that is because my camera stopped recording I’m a last take and this is like five days later and I had to redo the rest of my video because it did not capture on film just be yourself in a relationship don’t try to be someone you’re not don’t try to force this different perspective of you on someone else be anyways that’s it for this video comment down below if there’s anything you want to see me do next if you have any thoughts on this or if you just have any questions for me in general subscribe to watch more videos it’ll notify you when I put one out like this video if you enjoyed it and I guess I’ll see you guys next time bye I edited a new sort of thing it was gonna be my banner but I suppose it could just be a little tiny outro clip so here it is