I’M A CHRISTIAN, HE IS MUSLIM… WHY IT DIDN’T WORK | #LOVESEXRELATIONSHIPS

god is good no at least all right now we can probably take three oh my goodness [Music] hey guys welcome back to my channel and welcome to another episode in the love sex and relationships series as you can see back in the same location but I’m not gonna waste much time because I don’t have much time in here I’m basically just gonna tell you guys about my experience of being my experience of being unequally yoked dating someone that I basically shouldn’t have dated and my hard decision and how I got to the point of finally breaking up with that person and so I’m gonna explain to you guys from the beginning obviously if you watched the other video where I was singing about my celibacy story I was mentioning you know a particular person I kept saying don’t worry I’m gonna refer to it in in this video so if you haven’t watched that yet go and watch that first and then link it somewhere above watch that first and then come and watch this video because it’ll make a lot more sense anyway guys grab snack tea coffee drink whatever it is that you need and we’re gonna we’re gonna get straight into this I’m a little bit nervous but this little part of my story and his little part of me getting to this point now so yeah let’s go also guys I’m a little bit cold so as you can see I’m wearing this cold by the way let me show you guys this hood yeah I love this coat it’s from hmm so much industry tours I’m wearing a blanket but and I’m just in my true v tracksuit which by the way if you want a true B tracksuit that I’m gonna be able to see but true V track see I’ve got a discount code and I’ll link in the description box below anyway when I hits two were close so if you’ve watched our video you would know I explained that when I turned 17 I started seeing somebody so let me explain to you how that even started from the beginning right so I had moved into the area that I live in now and I think when I was about 16 17 so I was going to school when all that kind of stuff and I used to see this guy now I obviously at the time that this guy was fine and oh this guy this guy this guy and then there was this one girl who I’m not even gonna say like say who it is but she basically spooked her she lived in my area and I spoke to her I was how hard is this guy he’s so fine and she literally just said to me like Missy don’t go there he’s a player now that whole nonsense is a story for another day because there was so much that happened with that guy I can’t even that’s probably gonna be a whole nother story time dollar you know if I’m ready to unveil and offload that much but when I’m ready on it you guys know anyway so he basically she basically told me that one girl friends I don’t go there to see he’s a player I didn’t listen got with him we basically kind of we started dating side dating whatever you want to call it and for whatever reason I don’t know if we didn’t have a conversation about our faiths or religious beliefs anyone knows me knows I don’t have the term religion but religious beliefs but you know I don’t know we just never had this conversation um I don’t even know all I knew that it was that he was in that cheerier it with Wow he was a Nigerian he was Yoruba so I don’t know why and this is ignorant when I think about it now it’s such an ignorant thing to say but I generally just thought that he just was a Christian because a lot of Nigerians that I knew didn’t like the Nigerian you’re about people that I knew were Christian and so obviously mm-hmm I just assumed that he was a Christian anyway fast forward now – one day when I went to his house by this point obviously some things were going down I went to his house one day and I remember I saw something I think it was either it was either on the floor yeah I think it was on the floor kind of thought enough on the floor that looks like a prayer mat so obviously like a Muslim it’s Islamic prayer map I remember thinking no way this guy is not he he’s not no no it can’t be possible and then literally he came into the room and I remember just asking him like why is that and he literally said to me as I as a primer and then I think from what I remember because happened over two years ago from I remember I think I did say to him so wait are you Muslim and he was basically like yeah I’m a Muslim and now obviously even I even though that at that point I was being very very wayward my faith still meant a lot to me and like I said in the previous video you know even though I’ve done stupid things and I put myself in very dumb situations and I’ve always felt like God has always had his hand on my heart because I’ve never been able to completely disregard God or just be like whatever I’m doing my own thing I’m not a child of God I’m a deficit of know even though I was I was acting in a way that obviously wasn’t pleasing to the Lord I still knew that I loved God and I still knew that listen I’m still gonna try and do my best to live according to him and according to his will so obviously the moment that he’s so alarm bells going off of my head and I’m kind of like I I cannot be over Muslim like I don’t know very very clearly that the Bible speaks about being unequally yoked and and I’ll put I don’t know the verse off the top my head but I put the verse on the screen but basically being unequally yoked means to be with somebody who is not in the same you know it’s not in the same place as you in terms of faith and obviously someone who is a Muslim is not in the same place as a Christian because we believe in two different things yes a lot of people have the the notion or you know say that oh well there’s one God and we all believe in the same God but there’s a fundamental difference between the two faith groups you know we believe that Jesus came and died on the cross for our sins that Jesus was the son of God he came and died on the cross for our sins Muslims believe that he was a prophet and I don’t really know too much about Islam so I don’t want to say anything in case it’s out of you know out of context or not right at all but I know that they definitely don’t believe that Jesus was the son of God and that on the cross for our sins and that we are you know saved and redeemed and that he will come back again like all of that I know that I don’t think anyway that they believe in that so of course those are – and and the whole point of Christianity and the gospel is that that’s the main bit is the fact that Jesus came down on the cross for our sins and Muslims don’t believe that so that’s already a clash that’s already a problem because you’re believing in two separate things no matter how people try to make it sound really really nice and I’m not a lot of people try to be like oh yeah but you know we both believe in God and deter but if you look at the fundamentals as in the cause because of both faiths are very very different and that’s just that’s just the facts do you not I mean like it’s not like me it’s just something that we just need to accept do you know I mean it’s just it’s life we’re all gonna be different we have our different beliefs we have our different whatever which I respect I respect if you believe in whatever you believe I respect that but I know what I believe and I know what my truth is and so for me even in that when he obviously said I’m a Muslim I knew that that’s a clash like that can’t really work for me personally like bearing in mind there’s some people who you know there’s one parent who’s a Christian one parent who’s a Muslim if it works really works for you but for me personally I was just like this is not gonna work for me like I need to have a husband who I can pray with and who I can you know and pray with others and were pregnant to the same Jesus I need to have a you know a partner because in my even that was young guys in my mind I’ve always always dated with the mindset of like I want to get married I always do it with a purpose I don’t date people who I don’t think are gonna be long-term though I had a bit of a hickey hugger to people that I just that I knew that I wasn’t really gonna get with but I gave them a chance and that went a bit left generally the people that I would consider as and people that I’ve actually been with or dated like I considered them like a pivotal moment in my life it’s always been with the thought of like we’re gonna get married why when I married this person it’s obviously they in the sky I was obviously thinking like I wanna like in my mind I was kind of really populating and I think he knew as well he knew where my mindset was at he knew because he’s a few years older than me he knew that even though I was young my mindset was was quite like like advanced and I was really thinking about the future and what I wanted and I was already out at this point I don’t know if I had already started my youtube channel but I was already like hosting and presenting and doing me and I was already very very focused but that’s besides the point so he always says this to me alarm bells are going off in my head because I’m like good like this is not gonna work and I remember I think I tried to break it off and just be like nah this is not gonna work you know it doesn’t really work but somehow like everything is kind of a bit of a blur now cuz I don’t remember how things happened or like in what whatever it happened in chronological order or not but basically I just remember trying to break it off but I had already established a really strong bond with this person and obviously as well when you have now off the pants and you’ve slept with this person that is another level of another bond with this person as well so I remember I remember trying to lock it off and being like this is not gonna work didn’t happen Oh so I have to kind of speed this story along but essentially yeah a lot of us are going off in my head I tried to break it off but once you’ve had like you’ve released like written a bond of somebody it is so hard and I know obviously some people would just be like no Niecy why did you not just walk away you should have walked away from the beginning but I felt like I was already getting deep into that relationship I already excited and I had very strong feelings for this person I was already at a point where I was investing my time my energy my body into this person so it’s really really difficult to walk away once you’ve you’ve gone that far with somebody and I remember that I tried to basically break up with him a couple of times but you know like in a way I don’t know if it was more him or me but I tried to like make it logical so for example I would be like like he grew up in a household I don’t want to speak too much about his household or whatever but where he’s he’s got up in a family story where there’s been a lot of top and blend so anyone that knows Nigerians and especially Yoruba people they might know that a lot of them some of them are Muslim some of them are Christians like there’s a massive mix even within the population of Nigeria itself you know there’s a there’s a quite a mix in terms of Muslims and Christians and he grew up in a kind of like a top and blend household where my a lot of his family were Christian so he you know you know a lot of his family were Christian so he knew about the Christian faith and knew about you know everything like church everything whatever but then he also had a lot of family who were Muslim and he obviously chose to be Muslim as well so he he was a practicing Muslim in the sense that he prayed and whatever so he was mostly basically and what because he had grown up in that environment and he had explained how it worked for some people and I basically kind of spike to legitimize the concept in my head so I started saying you know well you know I didn’t add a you know here’s a Muslim but he’s quiet like and he’s quite liberal and he would never make me do anything I didn’t want to do anyway so we can you know it could be civil basically like you know I could have my faith he could have his we still encourage each other like I did in a day he still knows about the Christian faith and still is quite connected to it because of his family and the fact that his family is so a mixer blend that you know it’s not really a big deal and I started I really started talking myself into kind of like don’t worry and even to the point where guys I have to admit not holding my hand up to the point where even there were parts of me that were kind of like well maybe I can get him to convert and that is such a dangerous thought because just imagine if for example like there was something that he was thinking that in his mind about me I would be very very offended if he basically said to me like I need you to become a Muslim just as much as I know that if I told him because I don’t think I ever spoke out loud but if I ever said to him I want you to become a Christian I think he would be very offended because it’s like that’s his personal choice that’s his faith and Who am I not to come tell him you need to be this faith because this is the right side like do you know I mean like I hold my hand up but when you are so in deep with somebody you start to think like that and you start to think of anything that will make it work so that you guys can be together anyway long story short you know I kind of still I still wronged in that situation and we later on further down the line I remember as I was kind of itching for more from God and I was starting to rethink you know certain things I remember even saying to him like I want a partner that I can pray with I want a partner that can do this and this and this and I was explaining to him like why we can’t be together and he said to me like listen we can create together like I did in the day we can like I’m open I’m an open book type of thing and he made it seem very like you know I’m open to coming to understand your faith more so again those thoughts in my mind of like oh well maybe you know like Christ will touch his heart and this can work was still in my mind and so there were little bits and pieces and time ago we used to pray together which now when I look back at is you know is a very again very silly notion because it’s not for me to now come and force my faith onto you like you can’t do that doesn’t work like that so anyway long story short guys when I finally got that went into uni and I’ve got that kick up the backside from the church the redeemed church that I’d mentioned the other video the promo our CCG redeemed Christian Church of God City of David once I’ve gotten that kick up the backside and I was chasing God again and I knew that I had to eliminate certain things from my life like things like sex and other things I knew I had to eliminate these things for my life I remember I basically was like I kept praying about like guys you guys don’t even understand like I fasted I prayed over this situation I remember thinking like God I know that you want me to let him go by just porn like he’s such a big part of my life I want to stay with him I want us to be together I could see a future with him like why do I have to let this go that’s the only thing even though so many other things had happened outside of that as well which again is another hole of a video of why I’m glad that we did not stay together because it just didn’t work guys like it really didn’t work but that’s a whole nother video for another day I knew that God was telling me I’m precious pressing on my heart and saying like you cannot be with this person this man this person is not for you you are unequally yoked it is not something that I basically I approve of that again what I believe if you’re out there and you’re in a multi-faith relationship that was no discredit to you and I don’t want to offend you but this is what just I personally felt in my heart thought was saying to me like I just felt basically like what it was just saying no but it’s so hard oh guys like anyone that’s been in a sticky situation in their relationship would know how hard it is and but yeah once I’ve gone to that church and gotten that kick up the backside I remember God just telling me like Missy you know that you need to let this aspect of your life go you need to let go and I was in such a battle in my mind to the point where I had to speak to my pastor the pastor of that church basically used to be a Muslim and he came from a Muslim family Muslim background Muslim everything to the point where even his father was an imam in his village in his area in Nigeria but he converted to Christianity you know became a man of God became a pastor and I knew who’d be someone that understood so I approached him and basically and I just came to him almost like listen I really need your help I need to speak to you and at this point I was on holiday so I think this was the summer holiday before and completely like was just like god I’m done I’m done with sex and done with all of these things I’m just here for you and I want to commit everything to you I remember you know speaking to him over Skype basically just explained to him likewise I’m in this sticky situation I’ve been with this guy for three years of my life like I have such strong feelings for him but he’s a Muslim and I know that you were a Muslim and I want to know like what would it be like if I was to go further with him if he was her phrase I’ll get married and bla and he just said to me like Missy I’m gonna hate to tell you what you need what you need to do or not to do but the fact that you’ve come to me shows that there’s something in your heart that you know isn’t right so you need to see good and you need to do what is right before the eyes of God and he was like you already know what you need to do you just came to me because you wanted confirmation go and do what you know you’re supposed to do and after that guys I basically knew the confirmation from God to let it go and to completely sever that tire and like I said we’ve been on and off for three years at this point now he was trying really really hard he’d done some dumb ish before but he was trying really really hard and so things were going really well at this plan and uh it was so hard but eventually I basically called him I asked him to meet me I remember sitting in his car and I just said to him listen I can’t do this me and you cannot be together like the whole true faith thing it can’t work like you’re almost to him I’m a Christian this isn’t going to work you know I I can’t I’m not I just for me it’s not gonna work and he was like you know I know loads of like I have friends who have you know one person is almost same or one person as a Christian like it’s you know it’s 2,000 and whatever year was 16 17 is a 21st century like we can make it work but for me I just had a conviction in my heart that what didn’t want this for me and so I had to tell him and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life like the heart like it probably not the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life but relationship wise one of the hardest things I had to do and I remember I left the car and I walked and I looked into my blog cuz I live in a block and I just burst out crying like we Pig like that’s from the bottom of my heart weeping and I remember calling Christine oh my god Christina and then crying on the furniture that was wrong and I explained I was like I just broke up with him like were done like this whole Muslim is that like Muslim Christian thing is just not gonna work and I remember just weeping and crying and then yeah she basically came picked me up and then being the amazing friend that she is I loved her so much she comforted me and it was hard you know even after that I think he tried to kind of speak to me but I just I just made a decision I said God has convicted me and I’m gonna go by my conviction and I didn’t get back with him but I also feel like God rewarded me so much because I remember later on once it was done I went to my pastor and I basically went to him and I just said pasta like I did it and it was so hard and explain everything to me said I know and he asked me to pray and I said what do you want from my mind what do you want and he said say the specific things that you want from God and he put anointing oil in his hand we held hands and we prayed and we prayed and we prayed and I said exactly what I wanted from God and let me tell you now guys like how many years down the line god blessed me with this incredible man by the name of Ben Benedict and he is everything that I prayed for and so much more and I really do believe that that was God honoring his word he knew that I made a sacrifice and I honored him so he honored me back and you know it’s just it’s basically just a show that you know that you know when you do sacrifice for God he does give you back that and so much more no so you guys have seen like the bond that may have been have he’s a man of God I love him so much and has the integrity to God is amazing and he’s beautiful and it’s basically everything that I ever wanted I’m so much more so I don’t regret breaking up with that guy it was hard by moved on I’m in a better place I’m with an incredible human who loves me who cares for me so much I’m just grateful but that was basically the story guys and how that will transpired but I just will know like you know just say that obviously like I said before everyone has their own personal journey in terms of relationships and makes their own personal choices you know some people thought like multi-phase relationships work if it works for you then fine just this is just my personal story and my personal thing and for me it just didn’t work and if you’re somebody who is really battling that thought you really need to pray and ask God like is this really what you want for me and yes they might be hard to let go but I’m telling you now where you honor God he will most certainly honor you as well so and I hope that you enjoy this video there’s so much more coming for you guys and then love sex and relationships series but I just wanted to share this story because you know yeah a lot of people do get into relationships with people from different faiths sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t I’ve watched a lot of YouTube videos of you know where it hasn’t worked or where it has and I just felt like I should share my story as well so yeah don’t forget to Like subscribe and share and I’m gonna see you guys in another video love you guys stay beautiful I didn’t get any more but the flames today blow fire whenever I saw so true yeah [Music] you