How to resolve conflict in relationships | Christian Dating and Relationships Advice

welcome back got that record hi guys I’m not even on that fine and that is how not to solve conflict in a relationship [Music] hi guys welcome back I’m not and if you new here why not consider subscribing subscribe today we’re just going to give you two tips for resolving conflicts in a healthy way tip number one I’m gonna call this honest communication like we all know communication is key everyone says that and it is true but I want to add honest communication conflict often arises because of insecurities and we need to be honest with ourselves and and admit you know what I have insecurities like everyone has insecurities I have some you have some we all have some and we spend an awful lot of effort pretending that we don’t when we can start to be honest and open up an acknowledge that we do and when we’re in a serious relationship we can open up and share that with someone else that’s when a great deal of understanding can come so really what I’m getting at is we need to be aware of each other’s insecurities because when we are we can take positive steps positive action to be respectful of that and you know what we just might avoid conflict altogether in the first place when we actually open up to one another and we tell us that’s gonna hurt me oh that’s gonna make me feel better that’s gonna really trigger this insecurity of me that yeah I’m working on what it’s still there and I’m gonna need your help and your trust to deal with it and tip number two to be wise with your words what are the best piece of advice that I ever read about and having conflict more healthily was that when you are explaining to the person and why is it your obsess you shouldn’t be focusing on oh well you are nasty or you are horrible or you just aren’t nice the way that you did that was awful you should be saying things like well what you did that made me feel like this because when you in a relationship that is serious and there is maybe head into marriage or you are married you already know that that person should really be wanting the best for you anyway and you know that they aren’t going to be doing it to have hurt you they’re probably just as Matt with saying insecure or you’re both human and that just happens and so if you can focus on what you know you made me feel like this I know you probably didn’t mean to but that’s just what happened you can kind of work through that sometimes we can end up getting more hair over the words that are spoken in an argument then we were over the actual issue in the first place so I think that that’s just the thing but as couples should walk through with God and with your partner to just say you know kind of have more patience and more love and more grace more mistake whatever happened with us we just want to leave you with a couple questions question one how do you react under conflict and I mean typically it can go one of two ways we either explode and we lash out with with aggression or we get really defensive and we close ourselves off and we just create more and more distance are you aware of how you handle conflict and better yet is your partner aware and question two are you actively trying to deal with the insecurities in your life you know are you trying to work on those issues and can your partner once again help you with that in any way thanks guys once again as always let us know what you think in the comments below we are mad a nest and we are out [Music]