How to know You Ready To Be a Wife

is you are not busy finding the perfect one instead you are busy becoming the perfect one hi beautiful gems and welcome back to from rock to ruby i’m erica so today’s video we’re going to talk about the 10 things to help you identify that you may be ready to be a wife now disclaimer these 10 things whether you do them or not don’t guarantee a husband or not these are just things that i am sharing with you guys to help you be more prepared to be a wife than if you were not to do these things so with that said let’s go ahead and jump into the video all right so the first sign that you may be ready to be a wife is you are not involved in sexual sin now this is not black and white there’s no shortcuts it’s no sexual sin god will bless your sin and provide you a husband while you’re entertaining other men hanging on or going out with your ex or other men in the past or side relationships just so that you don’t feel lonely now this is where being set apart from the world is crucial we know that the world normalizes things such as the hookup culture and testing before you drive kind of thing and just because the world normalizes it doesn’t make it right number two is that you recognize having a husband is a blessing but you also know that it won’t fulfill you or make you whole you aren’t searching for a man to define you and you know that your identity is rooted in christ not your relationship status number three is that you have a strong devotional life now this is important because you want to have a sensitive and soften heart to god’s word you allow the holy spirit to convict and correct you because you desire to grow in the lord and to have a deeper relationship with him so you don’t pick and choose certain scriptures to fit your perspective or your personal opinion also a strong devotional life is important because it strengthens your spirit and weakens the flesh and when your spirit is strengthened you’re more likely to stand against temptation and sin number four is you are not busy finding the perfect one instead you are busy becoming the perfect one you recognize that a good man is a gift from the lord but also a good woman and you seek and desire to be her and the proverbs 31 woman we know is a great reference number five is you are not idle with your time and resources you labor with your hands and work to some capacity to contribute to your household you have a generous heart and you seek to bless others through service volunteering ministry giving of your time or donations this also means to utilize the gift things that god has given you to serve others number six is you are working on yourself mentally and emotionally when you’re married nothing is hidden you are a mirror and whenever you’re okay with being single may not serve you in your married season so if you’ve experienced traumas or hardships in your life that has impaired you or impacted you in a very negative way it’s important that you seek counseling or therapy or some outside help to continue to grow and heal in those areas so it won’t be a hindrance in your marriage now while you may not be 100 healed prior to marriage you’re at least going to have support resources and tools that you wouldn’t have had before number seven is you are working on making lifestyle changes this looks like removing bad habits and replacing them with good ones whether it be junk food a messy lifestyle being more active eating healthier and just taking care of your overall physical health number eight is you have a healthy lens of yourself you love yourself and you know you are a woman of value and self-worth this is crucial because you can’t expect a man to love you if you don’t love yourself when you see yourself with value on self-respect you know what to accept and not to accept in a relationship too many of us are in this love-hate relationship with ourselves and see ourselves as unworthy of true happiness i find single moms especially struggle with this mindset you must learn to see yourself through the lens of christ number nine is you have good financial habits this is important because what you do with your spending impacts your household and just like time you are called to also be a steward of your money it doesn’t mean that you don’t treat yourself or splurge once in a while you’re being mindful of your spending in some capacity you’re saving you’re budgeting your tithing and number 10 is simply you have a desire to be married this may seem like a no-brainer but you’ll be surprised a lot of women aren’t ready to be married or they don’t want to be married and they don’t have the desire to be married have a family have children or any of the above so if you have a deep desire in your heart to be married and you believe that you are called to be a wife in due time continue to maintain that faith because the lord loves to see your faith in action all right so there you have it those are your 10 signs to help you have an idea to see if you may be ready to be a wife again these are not set in stone or black and white but you are going to be better off if you implement these than not i hope this encouraged you and inspired you and thanks for watching i’ll see you guys next video god bless