Growing Together, Not Apart | What God Wants For You In Your Marriage

a synonym for neglect is too slight diyanet it’s almost innocuous a synonym for neglect is to disregard a synonym for neglect is to feel to give proper attention let me tell you as a preacher and a pastor for years it has been my do be as privileged to deal with broken holders and I want to tell you that more homes are torn up because of neglect then I’ve torn up because of adultery there are homes that are just misery nobody’s fighting nobody’s cussing they just don’t give proper attention and that’s one of the synonyms for a act if you love your wife you gotta give her some attention one man said to me but I I took for bread don’t take for granted don’t ask me why and then show us you don’t have to bring home a Cadillac just bring home and and she will gone up from that that you were thinking about her just a small thing but if you neglect her and you keep on doing it then marriage becomes dull Andra and then she’ll start to complain and nag and then you’ll get angry that she’s doing that and the first thing you know you’re at one another like that love is kind and love is long-suffering read 1st Corinthians 13 you ought to read it once a day just not just hugging and kissing and thank the Lord it is that but it’s also scrubbing floors and going after work and cooking beans and washing diapers and if you don’t have love in a home like that the tension would get you together you’re in trouble so we’ve got to be wise and we’ve got to be intelligent men are getters and women are givers they are the true lovers on earth and many wives are starving for attention and affection doesn’t make you small makes you ten feet tall you want happiness in your home you got to begin with Jesus establish the family altar play together you cannot trace and seal it for your wife and cheat on her you cannot pray for your way and not appreciate what she does a man stopped with Christ oh please take me seriously tonight women don’t nag y’all husbands you only drive them away if you’re a tent if your idea is to get attention you’re just gonna defeat your own brothers then try to please one another do things together amen if you’ve got twin man save them for company sleep together wash dishes together walk together talk together please together ride around together and you need a sense of humor when you’ll pardon me if I take an extra five minutes tonight a sense of humor don’t take everything so seriously and don’t explode over there every little thing that happens you can deep defuse a bomb but there was a man who loved his wife but he had a tough job and he came home hey you know what that’s like don’t you and he would often say some things and a little later on when he relaxed he was so sorry so one day he said there’s life honey I really don’t mean to do that it’s just that my boss is inconsiderate and the job is tough and nobody shows any appreciation and I get yelled at and I come home and take it out on you he said why don’t we work out something so this is what they agreed on he said when I have had a bad day and I come home the minute I get out of that car and start up the walk he said if I’m in a bad mood I’m gonna take my hat and turn it around backwards he said now if you look out the window and see that don’t start anything just give me a few minutes to get my stuff together and I’ll be all right now that’s intelligent wife said all right dear but let me tell you something sometimes these children almost drive me up the wall and so if you come home on the side don’t you start anything it turns out that one day the man had a hard day at the office and he was coming home and he was full up to here and and he came and out of his tiny foolish an ironic kept this briefcase and he started a fourth and that way they had a rotten day too and she wasn’t for it she took her apron it stood around on the side and when he got to the door she didn’t even wait for him to reach she stood open and there they stood and you know what they did just what you’re doing they both started to laugh and the crisis was gone develop a sense of humor in your home now I gotta give you one more have eyes only for her gentlemen lady wrote me a note Watson said when I walked with my husband he embarrasses me everybody the players he look man don’t do that you humiliate your wife only for her compliment her tell out what she looks nice the problem spots when you don’t tell her because if you don’t somebody else will tell when she cooks a good meal and puts on the licks or something and do it that’s just for you tell her how much you like it you’re buying yourself happiness would you say man remember what I told you already in our message tonight let’s appreciate our womanhood and especially when you marry one she must become the dearest and the best in the home the wife is to be the queen of the household everything revolves around her men I’m not putting you down I’m a man I’m telling you what works out best for you and then that life will give herself in sacrifice for her husband and her children just as sure as you’re born one will compliment the other and happiness breeds in that kind of act yeah and in Jos enjoy a home like that Oh ladies and gentlemen the Bible tells us in Matthew chapter 12 and verse 37 that by our words excuse me we’re going to be judged and in Malachi 2:16 in the Moffatt translation God says I did test good into a wife and you can do it without Hitler the wrong words all the time and always abusing her with words can drive her to the doctor and to the hospital it is a fact beloved theory is important but piety and practice is more important now my wife is sitting here tonight and I couldn’t preach it you like this unless you tried to live it at home it’s one thing to talk publicly it’s another thing in the home would you say Amen I’m talking about all of us now we need to realize that something is precious in life there’s something more important that then than our own indulgences and liquor and drugs and foolishness are robbing our homes of even a brand in a whirlpool of death wasting our substance and go home and find it and it’ll start with you hard work doesn’t class it’s working when you’re not appreciated it’s not being loved and not being happy now I don’t want to sound one-sided this goes both ways a good man ought to be appreciated and loved and you ought to be faithful and kind to him because of his devotion to you and the secret is love and you got to start with a love of Christ in the heart this stuff they sing about any syrupy sin the middle is not love that’s lost they got a term making love you can’t make love love is of God and then it expresses itself and I want to tell you something in my years as a pastor I’ve counseled thousands of couples and the biggest problem is not adultery it’s not fighting it’s not even cursing the biggest problem I face is where two people live together they don’t plan to separate they don’t trust one another they don’t even cheat on one another but they just don’t love one another and they are bored stiff and it’s all dull humdrum and they’re wondering where the magic went and they get on one another’s nerves you don’t have to live like that [Music]