Christian, Single, and LONELY? | How to Deal

I like to think of myself as a strong independent woman who don’t need oh man and honestly I don’t feel like I need a romantic partner to be happy in my life like I’m already happy in my life but guess I am a Christian and yes I am single and yes sometimes even I yes I feel lonely there shouldn’t be any shame in admitting this because I think like everyone feels a little bit lonely at times and sometimes even married people feel lonely it’s not just a single person thing but I don’t know what it’s like to be married because I’m not I’m just alone by myself so here are some ways that I deal with loneliness in a healthy manner so number one surround yourself with people that you like no I don’t need people that you like in the romantic sense although if you have that then awesome I don’t know why you’re single go get on that I mean people that you like and the fact that people who understand you and that you enjoy hanging out with nothing will make you feel lonelier than if you’re just hanging out with people that you don’t really know and you don’t feel like they understand you and you don’t even really like them you’re just hanging out with them because you don’t want to be alone a great way to feel understood is by actually sharing your life and people like don’t just wait for people to ask you how you’re doing I mean you don’t need to be like opening it all out for them I think that this is one of the secrets to just really making friends is just by being honest being real with others and with yourself and also taking time to invite them out to hang out because if you just wait for people to come to you you might be waiting forever and I know it kind of sucks because you want people to just love you so much that they’re just all going to invite you out and hang out with you but sometimes we do need to take that first step and initiative in asking people to hang out now be careful also with this because you don’t want to invite people who like you romantically but you don’t like them you don’t want to lead people on don’t do that that’s not what I’m saying number two find active hobbies other than watching TV and playing computer games and watching Netflix movies and TV and books are not bad believe me I love those things I I love movies and I love TV but if you’re constantly just living your life through like other people’s lives and through these stories you stop living your own life there was a time where after work all I would do is go home and watch Netflix and it kind of just made me depressed because I was living my life through TV and movies and books but wasn’t actually doing anything with my life so find a nice healthy hobby like exercising you know exercise gives you endorphins and endorphins make you happy advice number three encourage people or help people now why in the world would you want to help someone else if you feel like you need help because you’re depressed well I will tell you why it’s because helping others gets your mind off of yourself you can volunteer at a church or you know volunteering is great but if you don’t have time to all here you don’t have to do volunteering or if you’re like me you’re already volunteering and you just don’t want to do anything else but you still feel lonely at times you can encourage people just by getting out a piece of pen a piece of pen a piece of paper and a pen and just writing letters to people and encourage and then people that are already in your life I started doing this this past year and it has just been so much fun because it makes me feel like my life as a single person with all this free time is not wasted because it’s got in my mind off of myself and people in my life that I’m writing to and encouraging they really like it it doesn’t even have to be someone that is already in your life you could you know get a gift or something versus a stranger you could just do one of those like random acts of kindness things that people do on YouTube and finally number four what kind of video was the see if I didn’t mention Jesus at all if you’re feeling lonely and I mean really lonely the kind of lonely where you don’t even want to get off of your bed then don’t just lie there cry out to Jesus pray you know worship God put on some worship music and just start singing to Jesus you don’t have to hide from God he already knows you’re lonely so you’re not strong because you can’t admit how lonely you are you’re strong because you can admit it and you can admit that need help I myself have been there where you know all I am like so frustrated with boys and I just lie in bed and I just like get angry and all men in the world but don’t throw a pity party for yourself get back up when you’re finished crying and go out in the world and you know do one of those other three things that I mentioned and remember that Jesus does no loneliness I mean he was on the cross and he said father why have you forsaken me he was rejected he had friends who left him and have banded him and he was just by himself so remember that even Jesus knows your loneliness because he lived it hope this helped you all feel a little less lonely and if it did it then go do one of those things and if worse comes to worse just join online dating I’m like kind of joking but I’m like kind of not I’ll see you next video bye