Christian Guy Answers 30 Dating Questions from Christian Women

oh right hello my name is Warren and my friend asked me to answer questions about dating from Christian women these are like frequently asked questions about dating and I didn’t want to text her my answers so I was like can I just do a video and she said yeah just do it sure so I’m gonna try and do 30 questions and 30 answers in 15 minutes I’m gonna start the clock here and really try to hold myself to that to respect your time and her time and all that so this is from the my perspective is from a Christian perspective if you’re not a Christian and you’re watching this you might be a little bit confused and it might seem kind of weird but this is not me saying this is how you need to live this is me saying this is how I’m gonna live or this is what I’m looking for as a Christian man who’s following Jesus who’s not having sex right now and he’s really seeking a proverbs 31 wife so let’s get to it I’m gonna start the clock and I’m gonna be pretty bold with my answers and I might be kind of quick so here we go start okay number one how do I know if he’s just being nice verse if he really likes me okay here’s the thing you don’t know and you you shouldn’t it shouldn’t matter if he hasn’t asked you out yet stop thinking about him stop fantasizing and thinking what if it’s wasted energy so please stop number two do guys ever develop attraction over time or does it have to be there from the get-go yeah this is a tough one I would say more often than not it doesn’t develop over time but it can sometimes usually there needs to be something at first it’s not a binary yes-or-no or black or white like I hate it when people say oh does he like me or not like me or Oh does she is she a new me or 9 to me it’s a scale like she might be in you a little bit maybe enough to maybe hang out with you one day but not if it’s too inconvenient for the next day so it’s not a somewhat binary system number 3 what do you consider top traits in starting the cherished kind of creaky this is a cratenbarrel chair and I I’m still getting used to it number three I just voiced a 5-second so number three what do you consider top grades in a spouse okay for me this is just me but it’s three things conscientiousness intelligence and strength how strong of a woman she is not physical strength just like emotional and mental strengths that’s what I want that’s not what other guys want so take it for whatever that’s worth number four how can I let him know I’m interested in more than just friends without being too aggressive or embarrassing myself okay this is the thing you can’t in order to ask someone out you must risk being rejected and this is what guys have to deal with all the time and it sucks now I don’t tell girls you should go ask him out what would I suggest is like let him be the pursuer because that’s the foundation that you hopefully want to be laying for a future relationship with a man who’s not gonna be a boy but a man who’s gonna step up to the plate when he has to yeah but if you want to make you know let him know you’re available then drop things like hey maybe you know I’d love to get caught me sometime if you’re free don’t say I want to take you to coffee are you free tomorrow night just kind of let him like it’s like playing catch if you throw a ball a little bit like he still needs to catch it and see it coming you can’t just like you know help him out but don’t don’t try to take over his role he’s the man in the relationship you’re the woman in the relationship I know that’s traditional but that’s the position I’m coming from and that’s what I want that might not be what you want if you just stumbled upon this video okay number five what’s your biggest deal-breaker for you in a significant other I’d say apart from like loving Jesus for me would be a healthy lifestyle number six are you intimidated by a woman with a successful career no that’s what I want I want a woman with a successful career I will respect that I’ll admire that I want to help her with that that really excites me but that’s not every guy so yeah number seven what’s your biggest motivator or fear in relationships and why well my biggest motivator is to get married that’s why I want a date I want to I’m I want to be a purposeful dater I don’t want to waste my time I want to be a good steward of her time a lot of guys will just date a girl for a few years they’ll be sleeping together it’ll moved in and then five years later for some reason they break up and doesn’t you know done the girls get to be 35 and 40 45 and these men aren’t held accountable and these men aren’t incentivized to stay with them because our society isn’t structured that way Wow that could be a whole book okay number number 8 do you feel intimidated by strong woman no part 2 what can she do to let you know she’s approachable yeah I think what I said earlier like tidbits stuff like hey like I you know I’d really love you get to know you more gosh that sounds so dumb doesn’t it okay maybe like if there’s there’s a group activity with like your girlfriend’s you or just people either at work or in the church like inviting him over to be a part of that is not as intimidating or as forward as a date I think that’s still that’s so fine invite him for group hangouts sure that’s a good one if you want to get to know him more without being too forceful okay number nine how important is sex to you well for me it’s not an idol so that’s huge for some people it is I am NOT a virgin I’ve had sex before and at this point for me it’s not about getting ready to have sex for me it’s about I don’t want to be lonely I want a partner I love being single and selfish with my time I’m still working on a lot of things but I do want to get married to have a family I think most guys want that if they’re really honest with themselves so you as a woman just you know knowing knowing that and knowing that guys are also looking for that I think you should be intentional with who you spend your time with an he date there it is okay number 10 guys do they want to be with a solid girl but sees all my guy friends just really want to be with models what are your thoughts I think they’re addicted to porn okay number 11 what makes you feel masculine what makes you feel like a man um when a woman lets me open the door fur and buy her meal but I know that she can still buy did she want to do because she has a good career like that’s I feel I feel respected I feel more more masculine okay so number 12 is do single men find women with children a turn-off or does it matter well sure it matters on the guy I mean if you’re a 21 year old dude and you’ve never been married and you know starting out then you’re probably to be looking for something different than maybe a 40 year old man who’s who hasn’t been married or maybe is divorced for his kids of his own so if it is a turn-off for a dude then you don’t want to be with him boom okay number 13 should I be concerned if he is mostly female friends or follows a lot of women on Instagram well the Instagram thing I wouldn’t think too much about also don’t don’t stalk him on social media like calm down like that’s not good for your heart should you be concerned if he is mostly female friends yeah you should be concerned if he doesn’t have male male friends in his life that are keeping them accountable and loving him and encouraging him yeah that’s a problem for sure 14 why does it seem that guys typically jump into another relationship after a breakup quicker than girls well I think guys aren’t as intensely emotionally as quickly as connected as women that’s not a good thing that’s not a bad thing that’s just probably the way it is I was kind of dumped or broken up with a couple weeks ago and definitely stung but it wasn’t it’s not the end of the world it wasn’t like we were all in we hadn’t really dated that long yeah you know anyway and she might come back later she’s dealing with some stuff right now but but it stings some guys will find it on another relationship to move on quicker actually I don’t think women do that as much but I know guys that are just like moving right into the next thing because they don’t want to feel anything which is not healthy okay how do I support my boyfriend and supporting me in honoring our physical boundaries I would say don’t make it harder than it already is and communicate with him and tell him how much you feel respected and loved when he guards your purity so if you’re like a hot make up session on the couch with him or you’re like you know and your bed and things are getting a little too hot and heavy like hey don’t push it beyond what you know you shouldn’t like yes he’s the leader but like you don’t have to make him you know literally he’d like try to be easy to be led and then also I would say tell it like when things get heavy and then he kind of pushes the brakes a little bit as hard as it is like you know stop and tell him thank you for for holding God’s standards above your desires right now like that is really attractive what that will do to his heart ooh that’s good so don’t forget that one stop number sixteen thoughts on porn why do so many men turn to this because it feels yeah well it says and women turn to this it feels a void it’s easy it doesn’t take a lot of self-control it’s easy to get addicted to and it’s brutal my thoughts on porn was the first part of it it’s horrible it said so many marriages up for failure before they even begin and that’s why in LA I’m part of a group that really encourages men to not be addicted to porn or to break that addiction because it’s not healthy not every man likes a porn find a man who doesn’t or find a man who’s striving to not look at porn anymore and has men in his life holding accountable that’s hard to find but it’s not impossible okay seventeen do you value respect more than love yes I do number 18 in the beginning should the girl play hard-to-get I wouldn’t say for her to gamify it but don’t put yourself on a silver platter before he’s had to do anymore for it like if he’s if he says hey are you free on Saturday I’d love to get coffee and he’s never hang out to you before I don’t know why I’m using coffee as an example it’s like the quintessential Christian hybrid date pseudo hangout it’s actually probably not good because it’s not super clear but it is anyways so if he says you wanted coffee on a Saturday don’t text back 10 seconds later yes with a hundred estimation marks like I can’t wait instead made me say after a few minutes yeah let me check my calendar that should work right so you don’t need to make everything a game that’s not loving an honorable but there is an element of human psychology that doesn’t want something that’s super easy to get and that’s the way it is so number what are we on now guys this is fun I actually really like this number 19 is fear of commitment and natural tendency I would say no I would say no it’s not and then – how should the woman handled it in your life okay ladies if he won’t commit or is afraid of committing then you need to be done with him and move on because he’s not a complete person something might be broken and you don’t want to wait a few years hoping to change him and that he’ll get fixed you want to find someone who’s already whole ooh that’s real okay number 20 I’m gonna go quick now is it true that if he’s interested he’ll pursuer do whatever it takes to make it happen whether true or false what no no it’s not true we’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen even if he likes you I’m sorry most of that that’s a fairy tale number 21 why date multiple women at once well sometimes it’s because a guy can and wants to and he meets a few amazing women at once I don’t think a man should date multiple women at once in terms of like third dates and fourth dates a couple months ago I went on like I think I went on like three or four first dates and one month and then I really had to like pray about it and figure out okay God who do you want me to pursue and I pursued the girl that dumped me three weeks ago but that’s beside the point uh okay number 22 how does dating make you feel and why honestly not that great it’s really the this is not a sexy way to put it but it’s really the like interviewing stage like before you actually get to like be married to them and it doesn’t feel that great because you’re both being kind of judged yes you’re supposed to like love each other and you know make you fun but when you’re not being intimate and not having sex and really saving that and yes a guy when you’re really trying to guard her and lead her like it’s you know it doesn’t make me feel great it makes me feel like there’s a lot of responsibility there and that’s okay there’s responsibility right it would be bad if there was you were just going at it aimlessly 23 do you usually go for a younger woman or your age more younger women than not although when I was younger I went for older woman 24 do you know when a girl has a crush on you I yeah most guys typically no I don’t think guys are a stupid as you want to think well you want to think where you are 25 what’s the first thing you notice about a woman I would say whether or not she is secure or more like really has a lot of like insecurities or what’s that word I forget the word but whether or not she’s like strong and who she is she’s confident or whether not she’s like kind of meek and her body posture like I can no notice that well before I noticed like a smile or eyes 26 what do you think about a girl initiating first honestly I don’t think that’s the tone she wants to set for the rest of her marriage so I would encourage women not to make the first move unless she wants to sign up for a passive dude but I don’t think that’s that’s not what I want for my sisters I’ll just say that and I have 327 how can we as women do a better job supporting and encouraging you oh well that’s a lovely question I would say tell men that you are that you respect them and you really think the world of them like even if it’s not romantically just say hey Tim I noticed you were really hard any volunteer I think that’s amazing that would be great he’ll love that number 28 how can we show you we respect you honestly just tell him like I respect you 29 what are some dating tips I would say come up with a couple questions for a first date so if there’s a lull you can help him out and and you know ask him an open-ended question and the last one I think we have 30 seconds left or so on my clock what’s the ideal age to get married honestly if you’re a complete person and you’re fully redeemed in the Lord and you’re running after Jesus then I would say is early as young as you can there’s no need to wait unless God’s really called you for a season of singleness but if you’re ready and your your whole just get married all right again that’s just my opinions let me break down your comments also I might I’m not on my 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