Christian Dating Tips for Women How to find a Godly Man (Christian Boyfriend)

what’s going on guys i’m finally back i feel healthy enough to where i can actually record a video i appreciate all of y’all’s well wishes and prayers while i was feeling under the weather um gosh it’s been so long since i’ve like actually sat down and recorded a video i like i don’t know what to do with myself we have a good video for you guys today we’re going to talk about christian dating tips for women if you guys haven’t already seen the first part of this series christian dating tips for men i will link that in a card above here i think it would be here so go ahead and subscribe if you guys want more content like this i’m also i believe going to be tackling the amen versus a woman controversy that’s been kind of floating around the internet lately i think that uh i have a few things to say about that situation and just kind of the political correctness in the church these days and i just wanted to kind of address that so if you guys are interested go ahead and subscribe with notifications on so that you can be notified when i post that video onto the video all right so just like i did with men i’m going to start this off with how to find them them being godly men so churches church small groups and christian colleges as well as dating apps just like in the the video for men they’re going to be the primary places that you’re going to find godly men most likely now for women in general um they’re going to take a much more passive approach to dating or at least that’s kind of what the societal norms are in just a minute we’re going to discuss whether or not it’s godly for women to do the pursuing or to put themselves out there more so stay tuned for that one other side note that i wanted to make before i jump into the rest of this topic is that christian women i think need to be careful that they aren’t looking so hard for somebody that already has everything all together and planned out for their lives that they completely miss out on somebody that’s working on that and that’s that’s trying making a diligent effort so one thing that that i’ve always heard preached and that i really agree with is that when you marry somebody you’re not marrying somebody that’s going to stay completely the same so you’re going to marry somebody that’s a trajectory so the same goes for when you’re dating somebody whoever you’re dating doesn’t have to have the means to support you right then and there now i would not advise that you date somebody that’s doing absolutely nothing about their financial situation and they’re living with their parents but if somebody’s living with their parents and they’re doing the things that they need to do they’re going to college they’re they’re working maybe they are um they’re they’re doing something in order to not be a complete loser loser you’re a loser then you know we shouldn’t disqualify those people because i’ve i’ve personally had friends and i’ve actually dealt with it myself where when i was in college and i didn’t have any money i didn’t have a job i was playing college basketball on scholarship but when i was in that situation i felt like there were christian girls that that completely overlooked me and weren’t really particularly interested in me because of my age or because i didn’t have an established job or career you know i think that being with somebody like that you can’t you can’t expect to you can’t expect to meet somebody while they already have everything together because chances are that guy is probably already going to be taken up by the time he is established now we’re going to get on to how to attract a godly man so here’s the controversial topic of is it okay for christian women to pursue christian men and i did a little bit of research and this is another one of those topics where the bible is never specifically addressing this sort of subject um so like with dating in general in bible times there wasn’t such thing as as dating it was who does your family know who is who is your family going to set you up with and i don’t think that it necessarily always ended up being exactly who you would have picked but people just kind of that was just how things were done um but thankfully in today’s society we do get to pick and you can even look at an example like with ruth ruth didn’t exactly walk up to boaz and say oh you’re looking fine could i get your number i don’t think ruth did that instead ruth put herself in a position where boaz kind of was able to be around her and and potentially gave those hints and then she really gave a hint when she just straight up lied down at the foot of the guy’s bed now i’m not suggesting that ladies that we lie down at the foot of a guy’s bed i i don’t know what kind of custom that was but i can tell you what you are you are really trusting in a guy’s godliness if you do that but what i do believe that we can learn from is ruth’s ability and willingness to take initiative though i don’t know if it’s a woman’s role to straight up ask a guy to start the relationship i’m still a little bit fuzzy on that one because i do believe that men are supposed to be the head of the relationship ahead of a marriage although this technically is not a marriage so just a little disclaimer there but what i know that you can do as a woman is try and give off some signals to the guy i can’t tell you how many times i’ve heard guys talk about this i’ve had this experience myself where i was at a church function and it seems like maybe somebody is interested in me and might like to hang out at some point or even go out it doesn’t have to be even a date it can just be hanging out with friends or whatever but because the church small group or even just the church thing in general makes you kind of feel like oh if i ask somebody at a small group then everybody in there is going to think oh he’s just in this small group so that he can meet women that that just makes it that just makes it really really difficult on guys in particular and you know we should really be rewarding that sort of behavior because that’s that’s the best place to possibly meet somebody to start a relationship probably is in a church small group but it’s just it’s difficult and i understand why it’s like that because you know obviously you don’t want guys who really aren’t that serious about their faith to just start showing up small groups you know scoping out the ladies or anything definitely you want to make it as clear as possible if you really like a guy you know read his signals if he’s obviously not interested in you and he’s like just trying to get away from you then you know don’t keep on pursuing but you know guys need some help okay particularly in a situation where if you get rejected you can kind of be labeled a creeper for the rest of your life and number three how to date a godly man so women need to honor their husbands as the head of the relationship and while i don’t necessarily believe that women need to do anything like that with just a boyfriend i believe that if you really do think that you’re going to marry someone or you really think there’s even just a future or a possibility of that then i do believe that you need that it’s a good idea to practice honoring them as the head of the relationship spiritually ephesians 5 22-23 wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the lord for the husband is the head of the wife even as christ is the head of the church and he is the savior of the body now don’t think that that means that men aren’t to be held accountable in verse 25 paul writes husbands love your wives even as christ also loved the church and gave himself for it basically women are supposed to honor their husbands they’re supposed to respect them and and regard them as the heads of the household but that also means that husbands need to make sure that that they love their wives like christ loved the church now that’s not that’s not to say that if your husband is being a jerk that you don’t still need to honor your husband that just might mean hot take here you might have needed to pick a better husband also remember that no matter what your obligation is to honoring your husband if your husband tries to tell you to do something that is in complete opposition to what god teaches you to do obey god first that goes without saying so if your husband or boyfriend is pressuring you into being physically or actually no if your boyfriend is pressuring you into being physically intimate obviously you can disregard that remember that we are not to be unequally yoked and i don’t even necessarily believe that that just has to do with christians and non-christians it can be that you’re a christian you’re on fire for jesus and you’re kind of hanging out with a lukewarm christian i don’t really believe that that that’s okay either we need to make sure that we’re a team and that we’re pulling each other up the mountain instead of one person kind of you know dangling their feet behind us and we’re just kind of dragging them up the mountain and finally ladies if a man is not leading you towards god you need to get out of the relationship if your walk with jesus was going great and then all of a sudden you know chad comes in and and now all you want to do is hang out with chad and that bible doesn’t really look so good anymore and you know i don’t really go to church anymore because you know i spend the weekends with chad and we just don’t want to go anywhere you know we’re just we’re hanging out you know making out on the couch and you know we haven’t really talked much about god or or about our relationship with jesus you need to get out of that situation at the very least have a talk with him and tell him you know listen chad i’m i’m really concerned about you know our our relationship with with god right now i don’t feel like we’re we’re honoring him and putting him first and if chad isn’t receptive to that then you need to kick chad to the to the curb so anyway i i hope you guys enjoyed this video like i said this next week i believe it’ll be tuesday i’m going to be posting a video on the amen versus a woman controversy and what i think about that so i appreciate every single one of you guys i will talk to you guys in the next video i appreciate you all and love you all so much thanks guys