Christian Dating | How to be Her DREAM Guy | Coach Melannie

hello my wonderful friend in today’s video we are going to talk about how you can become her dream guy [Music] thank you so much for watching Melanie here from coach Melanie calm I hope Christian men find and attract the girl of their dreams if you’re interested in learning more about that be sure to click the link in the description below now in today’s video as I mentioned we’re going to be talking about how you can become the dream guy of your dream girl imagine meeting your dream girl getting to know her and realizing wow this girl is really incredible she’s gorgeous she’s fun she’s talented she understands you imagine that everything you’ve been dreaming and hoping to find you find and imagine how it would feel if you were the dream guide to that girl that she was attracted to you and that you hit it off that’s a pretty incredible thing that’s the dream scenario we all want what we don’t want is what unfortunately happened to a guide that we will call Mike he met this girl and she was absolutely gorgeous to him he just thought she was one of the most beautiful women he had ever met she was driven and passionate about wonderful good thing she had talents and she was pursuing good good things in life and she was fun and she was funny and man he really wanted to get to know this girl better unfortunately this girl although she was polite and nice she really never gave him a second glance she was not even remotely interested in this type of starting any kind of relationship with him but another guy came into her life that was smart and successful and funny and fun and very physically attractive and she decided she wanted to get to know that guy better and our poor friend Mike had to watch this and he felt terrible about himself and about dating and relationships in general what was the problem in this situation was Mike less than the other guy no but why did this girl his dream girl why did she notice the other guy instead of him the problem was our friend Mike was not on the same page that this beautiful dream girl was the second guy was on the same page I have had this happen so many times as a coach I have guys come to me with a long list of things they want in their dream girl and that’s fabulous I this is one thing I highly encourage people to do is have an idea a fairly specific idea of what they want their dream spouse to be that’s a good thing we have to know what direction we’re going in or we can’t guarantee we’ll get to the destination we want to be at so it’s important to have that unfortunately though as I have these guys given me this long list of things that they want their perfect ideal girl the question I need to ask them is are you those things in this story with Mike what I didn’t mention at first is so many of the things he was drawn to in this dream girl he was not himself he didn’t dress with he dressed in clothes that were kind of sloppy they certainly weren’t stylish they did not flatter him he didn’t spend more than five dollars on a haircut and you could tell what some of the reasons he was attracted to this girl’s because she was driven she was positive she was upbeat she was pursuing good things in her life and he really wasn’t doing that much in his life so when presented with potentially getting to know Mike better she wasn’t interested in that she’d worked really hard to reach the point in her life she was at and she was committed to that she was driven to do that and when she saw a guy who was equally as driven equally as committed and moving in that direction they let her know that this man would be a good partner for her they were going in the same direction the fact that he was committed to working on himself as much as she was was incredibly attractive to her that’s incredibly attractive in a spouse someone who’s always trying to become better and always trying to improve and maintain and so she saw that there was potential for her and the second guy to build a really successful life where our poor friend Mike she didn’t see that in him so she wasn’t attracted and moved on to the next guy what it comes down to is so often what keeps a really good guy single is the fact that he knows what he wants in his dream girl and he is several of those things our friend Mike was several of those things however if you are not on the same page she is I’m putting in the same amount of effort she is she’s not going to be interested this is certainly true from a Christian perspective when it comes to our faith a lot of people want but you believing spouse who’s full of faith and who’s very close to God but if they’re not willing to put in that amount of work to be close to God themselves that spouse is not going to be or rather that person is not going to be attracted to them they’re not going to want to become their spouse if you are a really good guy which I’m sure you are and the fact that you are watching this video is proof of enough proof enough of that you are trying to be a really good guy what I would encourage you to do though is just to sit down and write down some of the traits you’re looking for in your dream girl and then be honest with yourself are you those things I don’t want you to do this in a way to tear yourself down that’s not productive and that’s not good the truth is you are an incredible person however if you change nothing nothing changes so it’s very important for us to just acknowledge and and recognize and be really honest with ourselves and say am I am i those things the good news is that this is this is actually an exciting thing because once you’ve recognized what the problem is you know what the problem is and you can come up with the solution to fix that problem I have kind of a personal experience to share with you with this I was at the store one time and I saw a guy and I was like oh my goodness he looks like my dream guy in so many ways he had so many things I was looking for and he didn’t notice me guys he didn’t even notice me and the reason it stuck with me is I had I kind of had seen this pattern happening in my life were the types of guys I really wanted to get to know better weren’t even noticing me and it hit me really hard and I felt bad I felt really bad and I started thinking about it and trying to figure out why what was I doing wrong and I real I came home and I looked in the mirror and I realized oh that’s why he didn’t look at me I didn’t look like the type of person who would compliment his lifestyle I happen to be dressed really sloppy that day and I happen to look significantly younger than I was because one I was dressed sloppy and – I was not dressing my age I was dressing very very young for my age so of course he wasn’t gonna look my way and I didn’t he the reason I was attracted to him as he looked very proactive very driven he was stylish he was put together he looks like the kind of guy who as a woman I’d feel very safe with I’d feel like he could be the protector and the provider and that I was safe with him he was confident confidence is always attractive I did not reflect any of those things this guy has worked very hard to get to the point in his life that he’s at and he wants a companion who can support him in that and who can help him continue that and build that together and I did not look like the kind of person who could do that even if I was the kind of person who could do that I had many of the traits that he probably would have been looking for but I didn’t look like it and so he was going to pass me up for someone else who did look like it and who was moving in the same direction he was so it’s very important that we show people that we are who we are and that we make sure we have the same traits we’re looking for so as you sit down and you write this list of the traits you’re looking for in your dream girl then you are completely honest with yourself and you see how you measure up and take a note of the areas that maybe you’re you’re not on the same page as your dream girl now you come up with the solution which is deciding how you are going to develop those traits it’s not that you give up on those traits and say oh well I guess I just can’t have my dream girl absolutely not that’s not what this is about at all it’s about saying okay how can I develop those traits as I mentioned earlier I hope Christian men find and attract their dream girl and this is the process I use I help men identify some of the areas they need to work on and then help them learn those traits take on those traits and therefore become the dream guy of their dream girl I have a membership area called how to find and attract your dream girl if you’re interested in learning more about that so I can walk you through step by step walk you through this process be sure to check the link in the description below this whole process should be an exciting and building process you are becoming the dream guy for your dream girl so no matter how you decide to approach it as you identify the traits of your dream girl identify which traits you need to work on and then come up with a solution to become those things you will become the dream guy for your dream girl and how amazing does that sound thank you so much again for watching my wonderful friend if you have any questions please leave me a comment in the comments and be sure to give me a big thumbs up and share with a friend honestly relationships are something we all want and a healthy Christian faith filled relationship is what we want so really sharing is caring I release a new video every Friday and trust me you’re not gonna want to miss any of them so be sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell if you do not yet follow me on social media there are links in the description below we should totally be friends I share some incredible things over there so be sure to check that out as well thank you so much for watching my wonderful friend and have [Music] about love and leafy 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