CHRISTIAN DATING: GOOD ENOUGH VS. GOD ORDAINED

hi guys welcome back to my channel and thanks so much for watching last time we talked to Jessica Hoffman about Beauty be health and unveiled well after a conversation we got into the topic of Christian dating to sum it up we talked about the difference between good enough and god-ordained dating with intention with purpose and surrender and faithfulness that God will beat the relationship and not us hope you like it we’re going to transition from beauty but it’s the perfect transition because you’re mentioning how God would anoint Eva Kane became one of my favorite stories is this one because it correlates to how I found my future hubby and when God told Samuel I’ve anointed a king go into Bethlehem talk to Jesse and I will point him out to you so Samuel goes into Bethlehem and he’s a strapping young strong man who looks very capable and he thought oh he might be a good King and I said no no no you look at the outward appearance like I look at the heart don’t be fooled by beauty don’t be fooled by that outside it’s pretty yeah but wait on me and so another Jesse’s other son would come out and send me will be like ah this one God and I just imagine God going no not the one no not the one a lot like my dating career about funny Haman this one God no not the one know when David came out on the scene immediately God told Samuel anoint him he is the one and I am like she the Bible can tell you the whole inspiration lead to even in that really important decision on who to marry I just do feel that the moment I laid eyes on my fiance before I even knew that he was walking to our table I really felt that God allowed my spirit to recognize his spirit because I was instantly attracted to him in a way that made me go ah I just I’m so encouraged by that because what doesn’t that’s never happened right like so many people have set you up on dates you gone countless where they all look like these dropping land all day there let me guess they all look at my kid right above it what was that like for you to just go through every guy is usually all they know though cuz I prefer that one point you’re just like can I just make one the one and I very much this forward and I mean I wanted to be married by twenty four years old I wrote that dream down in high school yeah 24 came and went 34 came and went you know and I really never did lose hope I tried to bury it you know every time I got hurt I would just say I don’t need to be married I’d you know but in my younger years you know I would go out and meet a very nice gentleman I’d get set up a lot and I remembered I’ve been my mom after a day and she’d be well was he cute like oh yeah and so cute and did you get a lot of sure we got along with it did you for what oh he’s a miniature union-shop what are you going to get you know or not there’s a lot of times I especially the older I got you know I let the world dictate my actions I yeah I just the truth yeah and you know there were one particular relationship public to your relationships that is data and much too long and I remember I doubted that there could be something better than this and though essentially I mean that’s your definition of settling right right but I let my night my doubt I guess who dictate my actions rather than letting my faith dictate my actions and it was my 35th birthday earlier this year and then I actually well I broke up with my boyfriend at the time the night before my 35th birthday and I mean who does that you’re essentially starting over was the fear that the enemy kept feeding my mind you’re 35 you’re really going to do that you’re really going to break off a relationship with a good Christian guy let me tell you a good Christian guy if he is not ordained by God that relationship won’t work and I’ll bring so much pain good enough and God ordained are so different it’s so different and so I just got to the point where I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I needed to break free from what God was telling me to break free from and so that night before I celebrated my 35th birthday my main must be really pretty good growth virgin I’m not trying to only make any movies here if you know what I really felt like God put me back on the path in the trajectory that he needed with me to be on yeah I felt so incredibly free all of my joy all my pieces just rushing back and and four days after I broke up with my boyfriend I met my fiancee I wanted there to be a good year and been doing all of that I was ready ready to the work ready to be focused man you Lord but when he walked into the room in my spirit reckon is his spirit I thought I know that this man will change my life right I think I was too afraid obviously fresh out of a relationship to say anything more than that Vincent he actually slow played it about a month and a half of getting to know each other via text and phone calls he didn’t ask me out for a month and a half when he finally did and a couple weeks into it I said we talked about that wow you you made me wait for a month and a half like and he’s like I didn’t want to but I really felt the Holy Spirit thing not yet not yet and so it was really evident that the Holy Spirit was leading both of us together and then I think about it and I could this is why I’m so Gideon so happy is that my my joy was never in a man it was never in a person my joy will never change because this will never chat all unless I walk away from it which I will not why would I experience that freedom you don’t want to taste anything else in fact my life versus just two songs one 1932 I will run in the way of your command because you set my heart free once you take that freedom you’re kind of addicted to it yes more more more MORE yes and especially because I mean even times that you’ve walked away from the Lord myself I didn’t know the Lord for so many years I know I know what’s on the other side I’m so good without the darkness without being lost not knowing what I’m living for I know every single step I’m like oh that affects whining that’s when you keep getting your life back how come all of it is just empty nothing nothing nothing remains okay so 35 years let’s talk about that I mean I’m sure there’s a time for a consult so long right like I’m sharing from Peru early what I started I’m sure it’s so easy to just have such distress in a place of cynicism and I know that you made an active choice to believe truth to another verse on naffy that I love 95 8 so I said are the pure in heart for they shall see God and that had been my life’s goal I guess every time I went did my own will and got away from what I knew God was calling me suddenly everything became fuzzy and blurry and I couldn’t really make out what should I do with my life where should I go next but every time I got back on the path of purity yeah even emotional period you know of course the physical and sexual purity but purity just not painting your mind not painting your face with with other things it was then that I could really see God in all his beauty and all his love that he has present yeah and truly it became enough for me it really truly became enough for me I remember getting to a place where I said God if you called me to be single for the rest of my life I will be happy with that because I get you I get you and everything that we’ve had together so far but the dream of being married never died and in fact the closer I got to God and back in the word and back on the path of purity the bigger that that dream of being married and being a mommy one day became and so now that I am happily engaged and I have to say I’m only halfway engaged because I was happily single and you can’t get into that trap of waiting for the next thing I’ll be happy when I wasn’t happy when I get that job I’ll be happy when I get to this level in my career when I did a boyfriend right because that is a trap that will keep you trapped all your life and so don’t cheat yourself out of this total way it’s when you’re single and when you’re waiting and when you’re right in the middle of this waiting game that we all hate that’s when you grow your trust and your hope and your face and the Lord that’s when you really experience the greatest love story on earth are there any regrets that you feel from being single that whole time or at least you wish that someone would have told you some of the things that you know now that yeah other of us you don’t know but I really could have benefited some somebody shaking me and saying Jessica don’t buy the lie the enemy will lie to you just like he lies to you into every other girl and to not take it personally that would have really alleviated a lot of heartbreak a lot of pressure I think because you know I had to deal with a lot of the things that you had to deal with I mean my daddy passed away when I was young and feeling that abandonment and feeling that piece of my heart ripped out of me as a young girl losing your daddy I mean then that shapes how you treat men for the rest of your life and also shapes what you think about your heavenly father a lot of people who don’t have a father have a issue with how they relate to the Heavenly Father and I mean it double really attacked online with bringing up a Manomet issues bringing up trust issues lying to me and saying that you know no man will love you even your dad left you you know all these lies that I took personally that I took what’s wrong with me what am I doing wrong what am i doing what am i and it was honestly being too caught up in me you know because if I would have heard Jessica every girl battle is the problem and if you can get through it she can get through it that would have given me so much power to conquer those lies the only thing I really truly regret though is not trusting in God more than I did because I could pinpoint all the hardships all the detours that I took if you rewind easy rewind it and always goes back to when I turned and did it my way because I just didn’t but not enough pain right I know best way I want my heart won yeah and I don’t know why it’s so important to love God with all of our heart soul but our mind oh you get our minds are so powerful and we operate off of what we thank and the enemy knows that so he is going to do whatever he can to get your mind that created believe me things and if you can we both live in you can leave you instantly that’s how he works right and it never looks like then because it’s like I said percent he’s fallen angel so unclean oh that looks pretty you know okay yeah you know so many drugs – with violence relationships he prays over me he this is a mess and then they go play and then all this other stuff so he’s not walking the walk he’s not bearing the fruit he’s good enough yes he right how would you say Vincent encourages you differently than every other boyfriend that you’ve had in the past I kind of want to read you something because this question was so important to me and it was so big his love for me reminds me of Christ’s love for me pure tender selfless and unconditional he wants me to succeed and live up to every potential and I’ve honestly not ever come close to any of that Vincent looks at me through the eyes of love and which is how God you know God got a books at us all the bad all the good all in the States with eyes of love and it is great for all of it and I’m like oh my gosh I have never felt this love from the man other than Jesus and that is the point so therefore I guess we never not married I ever had that yeah and now with Vincent I realize God ordained us to be together and Vincent has dedicated his whole you know his kind of singleness to knowing God and knowing his word and I’ve done the same and so the Holy Spirit has been leaving both of us and teaching both of us how we each need to be loved and it’s blowing my mind and when you know you know you know you know I love you sharing all that if you enjoyed this video go ahead and hit the like 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