3 STEPS TO KNOW THAT GOD APPROVES OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP | CHRISTIAN DATING

Lord is this person for me I need to know this conversation we need to have hi there welcome back for another courageous conversation these are conversations that we have that we want to be intentional about we want to be bold about as people of God Christians some of these you can be a believer you don’t have to be a believer but in God’s Word I’m going to take a scriptural text and we are going to discuss some conversations that a lot of times we don’t have but we need to have and this one y’all we need to have okay this conversation we need to have waterways what are signs how do I know that this man this woman is for me now let me just give the premise the disclaimer already that we are talking about a Christian relationship okay I’m talking about relationship between a man and a woman and we are talking about dating to court court to marry how do I know that this person is for me I want to know from God Lord is this person for me and it’s important to know we’re just jumping straight into it so go ahead and get your coffee get your tea we are going in yes because this is so so important this is something that I feel like is heartfelt I always pray and ask God what to bring to the channel for courageous conversation I just want to say that up front and so I might even start as a matter of fact let’s just go ahead and pray let’s pray in the beginning of this and ask for God’s leading and this is mostly for me but it’s also for you to open up your heart and just really hear what God’s Word is saying to you dear God we thank you on today on this beautiful Sunday that you’ve given us we thank you for your word this is the day that the Lord has made and we’re going to rejoice and be glad in it Lord we thank you for your word we thank you for opening our hearts and our minds so we can hear what the Spirit is saying to the church what the Spirit is saying to us O God and ask your God to decrease your servant and increase your spirit that those that hear the word will take it and receive it and so good seed and multiply it within their lives that they may produce and bring forth fruit and tell someone else and plant those seeds into someone else and help someone oh god we thank you for your word we appreciate you right now we are grateful for what you’re doing and what you’re going to do in Jesus name Amen okay so we are talking about signs how do I know God is approving this relationship we’re talking about there’s so many relationships right so we are talking about the relationship like god I want to get married I feel like I’m in that place that I am ready I’m single but I want to move forward into a relationship with a man with that woman of God that you have ordained me to be with and so I want to say the first thing that we have to do is have a relationship with God we’re asking God a question right how can we ask him a question we don’t know his voice if he was talking back to us [Music] that was just an example right if you don’t hear the voice of God how do you know he could be talking to you just like I was speaking to you right then and you don’t even know what he’s saying the reason why I am saying this is because that’s exactly what God did to me I was like in college and I was like I am ready to have a relationship I am ready to have a boyfriend I am ready to go in full and God I was like letting God know this is what I want this is Laura and I was praying literally on my knees hey y’all God spoke back to me this was like the first time I had really heard God’s voice and I wasn’t ready for what he told me I thought that he was gonna be like cool girl I’m gonna send him your way boom but that’s not what he said y’all and this is how I know it was God because it was something that I did not expect for him to say it definitely made sense because I believe that God speaks to us and draws him to himself he draws us to himself so you there has to be a voice that is calling that is urging you to come to him right so in that call it you can tell that it’s not you it’s that urge is that doesn’t you know that knot in your throat that feeling you get in your chest when something is right women call it intuition man call it you know those spidey senses kind of like Spider Man right so when God speaks to us as he spoke to me in that moment he told me how can you how can you ask me for a relationship with a man when you don’t have one with me if I sent him to you you wouldn’t even know because you don’t know my voice you don’t know if I’m approving disapproving saying anything about the person and so the scripture that I can confirm God’s Word with what he told me is that Matthew 6:33 and it says seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you and so we have to seek God first we’re asking got a question and so if we have not built that prayer life because we say oh we have a relationship with God oh I know God but have you spent time with him do you know what God loves what do you do you know what God dislikes you don’t I mean and what I there’s two ways to really hone in and have a relationship with God and that is a prayer life and reading God’s Word if you want to know about God you got to read his word there’s no way we can just pray and a lot of times we want to ask for things asking for things from God is not a way to get to know anybody do you know any relationship that is flourishing where you just take take take take in that relationship so I urge you to get on your knees go throughout your day and speak to God well if you’re angry speak to him if you’re sad speak to him that’s how we gain that relationship and starting a relationship with anyone you don’t a lot of times you don’t speak for hours to the person most of the time it’s a little bit at a time so don’t feel overwhelmed with having a relationship with God with having a prayer life and when I say a prayer life’s at a time throughout your day that you specifically take time away from everything else turn off your phones turn off the social media I know it’s hard in a world full of technology that’s fast-paced but we just need to slow down in here the Word of God especially when it’s concerning us and our being because God is so concerned about us and so if we want to hear the Word of God we have to shut out all the all the distractions let’s just call it distractions because that’s what it is take the distractions out of your life a lot of times I will put my phone on a mute on silent because just when you want to pray someone wants to call the phone something wants to happen so take those distractions away and really I don’t care if it’s five minutes if it’s ten minutes I promise you the more you talk to God the more he’s gonna talk back to you and you’re gonna know it so let’s talk about step two another sign because now you have you’ve gained that relationship with God you’re hearing the voice of God and let me just say when the Lord spoke to me and let me know that I stopped immediately asking him about a man I’m just gonna say that imma be real and it was because it was a self-check I was like what did God just check me did he tell me I he didn’t he told me I didn’t have a relationship with him which was totally true and when you come to God you got to be one you got to keep a 100 number one because he knows your thoughts in the Book of the Isaiah it says that his thoughts are not our thoughts his ways are higher than our ways his thoughts are higher than our thoughts and so we have to realize that in speaking to God we got to keep him 100 okay we cannot hide and feel like you know I don’t want God to know about that he already knows y’all he just wants us to acknowledge that so I stopped asking him for a man and I really got into God’s Word I started became you know I don’t even think a prayer life is something almost set aside a time every day I just knew with starting a relationship with someone you basically talk to them like every day I talked to my husband every day I talked to my best friend every day um there are people that I talked to at least a couple of times a week but I knew that if God is supposed to be as a Christian the most important thing in my life and it says seek ye first seeking is a different thing than looking okay I can look for something but if I’m seeking it I am pursuing it I am consistent I am adamantly looking for that thing and seeking God and seeking Him first I wanted him to be a part of every day of my life which brings me to tip number two in a sign and that is to acknowledge him and so in proverbs 3 and 6 it says and all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy paths pass is plural y’all because there we got a lot of journeys we got a lot of paths you want to make sure that the direction that we’re going from seeking God first will be the path to eternal life so let’s talk about the word acknowledge y’all I had to look up the definition and it says to accept the existence or truth of a lot of people have your truths right now my truth well if we’re asking God we wants history because really his truth is the only one that’s really gonna stand his word does not pass away all these things in the world is gonna pass away but it says his word will stand forever so that’s the truth that I want to go by okay I know I can speak my truth and really my truth is my opinion but God’s truth is the one that’s gonna stand forever so I definitely want to be after I seek him first and it says all these things shall be added unto me that means my man my money my honey and all of those things are gonna be added if I seek God first so it says all these things shall be added that means that after I see God those things are gonna come to me but then in those things that I’m asking God I want to make sure that I’m not asking something that is out of his will because sometimes we don’t know how when God tells us no and that is a whole nother courageous conversation that I want to talk about what God tells us no it doesn’t mean something else it does mean that God has something better for us just know that God has our better he has the best intended for he it says that in Jeremiah it says that we he he wants us to have good things that he is looking at our end acknowledging God is not telling him like I said not telling him what we want but we are acknowledging God in prayer and we’re saying God this is what this is the man that is before me I’m starting a relationship with him and I’m getting to know him should I pursue this relationship and the way that we know that this works y’all again is in God’s Word okay there is a particular scripture there’s a particular story and it’s about David and David’s wives and the children they’re in Zig lack and he actually you know people are wanting to kill David but he says he puts the ephod on and he acknowledges God and he says God this is my dilemma I am in trouble should I pursue these people you know they’ve taken the women and children captive should I pursue and God responds to him and says yes pursue and you’re gonna recover everything that you lost so this lets mean to know that God will respond back to us okay which leads me into tip in sign number three Psalms 37 23 states that we have to have our steps ordered by God a good man steps are ordered by God because God loves us and he orders our steps that’s the reason why we’re good we’re not good on our own it says a good man steps up order by the Lord what is making me good I am being ordered by God on what to do now we’ve said already and the previous sign that it says that in all thy ways acknowledge him and he will direct our paths now our paths so to speak let me put that plural on there because it’s just not one path he’s it’s different decisions and that reason why it says paths it’s talking about our decisions okay so being ordered by the Lord means that we are waiting for the answer a lot of times we ask God for things and then we’re like or we tell him what we want and then we turn around and do it we have not waited for the answer you definitely have to read God’s Word we have to have a prayer life we have to acknowledge God we have to pray and ask him is this for us and then in the end wait for the response I know it’s hard it’s hard to wait sometimes when you’re anxious or wait I say on the Lord and mount on wings as Eagles thanks so much for the courageous conversation you guys put it down in the comments what you think about this conversation and how has God worked in your life thanks so much for watching I’ll see you in the next one