I'm also black.. i'm 25 and i'm stuck in a small city with no jobs and finding work has been very hard for me. Well recently i met this guy online... an older white man who it seemed that i was very compatible with. The guy is very well off and he dates nothing but black girls and besides that, our personalities are seriously like perfectly compatible. BUT b/c of the nature of his job, he's in the public eye a lot, lives in hollywood (or he wants to) and has received a lot of criticism and backlash for dating black women. With his last gf it was apparently really bad and this was years back and he still hasn't dated a black woman since.

So here i thought i could be the one to help him through this and show him real happiness and true love. But from the very beginning, this guy was sending me mixed messages and at times, was very cruel to me. He was just absolutely horrible. Every thing that he could've done wrong he did. At times it seemed that he was trying to destroy me on purpose. Then at other times, he would do something nice that would make me reconsider the quality of his character. But this has been going on for almost 2 yrs now and with A LOT of prayer on my part, i just couldn't win.

Now i find out through other sources that he's planning on marrying an Asian woman that he's known for like literally a week. I've seen their pics and stuff so i know it's true. I just cant believe that after all the crap this guy put me and every other black woman through, this is how it all ends? This guy is a majorr creep and has terrorized my life so much. Even now, i fear that he has been watching everything i do online. I worry that he's spying on what i do on my computer. I worry about my safety and on top of it, i still don't have a job, still don't have any money. Part of it is b/c i've been so preoccupied with this guy i've neglected myself. And on top of it, this guy doesn't feel that he's done anything wrong or that he owes me anything. He refuses to give me even a penny. I feel sooooooooooooo weak and tired b/c of all the racism we face constantly. And i'm such a religous and good person, seriously my faith is all i have right now. B/c i don't have any more strength left and i've been completely humiliated by all this. Now i don't even wanna talk to another white guy. I've had similar experiences with other white men where there is just so much hesitation, mixed messages, etc. But it's never been as bad as it was with this guy. This guy has dated nothing but black women but like i said, he got a lot of crap from fans b/c of it. So this is the end result. He tosses away the black woman that could've been his perfect match for a gold digging asian who needs the money about 1/10 as much as i do.

Now i assure you, i don't want this guy back in any way shape or form. I had started looking for other guys a long time ago but like i said, my search has been going nowhere. And i'm just so wounded that idk if i can continue on. I feel so cheated b/c he lied, played with my feelings, lead me on for so long and he would've continued to do so if i didn't do/say anything. I gave it everything i've got and he wouldnt' even talk to me. I've thought of ******* so many times. I guess i'm just looking for some support, kind words, feedback. What do i do? How do i deal with all this pain? How do i find it in me to face another white man again?
and i'm a pretty girl.. sure i could use a nose job or whatever and i figured with all his money, this wouldn't be an issue. But he made it an issue and the asian woman is not even as attractive as me. I just cant believe this situation and how i find myself here. I can't believe this person and how fooled i was into thinking he was actually a decent human being. It seems that good ppl can never get ahead and i can never win.
lol David.... it's a different situation b/c he's famous. Seriously if i said the name, you would probably know who. I know being famous doesn't stop stuff like that from happeneing but it probably cuts down on the chances a lot, don't you think?
THANKS FOR THE KIND WORDS, PEOPLE. Seriously you guys have got me crying. To suffer this kind of mistreatment and then ultimately rejection, it's amazing. Especially from a man that claims to love black women and did seem to for so long. If only things had gone better with his fans and with the public. People, DON'T LET THE PUBLIC GET TO YOU. Don't let others ignorance get to you! If you're gonna be in an *********** relationship, be PREPARED FOR A FIGHT. It's not gonna be easy but with a few... yes A FEW sacrifices only, you can make it happen. A man has to be strong to be with a black woman. You've gotta be a MAN not a poser or anything else.

Also to the poster who replied asking who the guy was, i sent you an email.

What upsets me so much is that i was LEAD ON AND LIED TO. USED AND EVERYTHING. If you dont' wanna be with me, if you dont' think it will work or whatever, JUST SAY SO. JUST BE HONEST. HAVE THE HEART AND THE DECENCY! And i BEGGED him so many times to be honest with me
to doglover: he's a 45 yr old has been. And he's rumored to be a really mean spirited person. Yet i thought i could change him or something idk what i was thinking. Also b/c so few guys will date a black woman, i thought i shouldn't be so picky. Simple as that.

And to the other one........... i'm a gold digger trying to get a nose job?!?!? I'm a bad person, so i deserve all this!??
lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol! Next time read the whole thing. *******. You're probably just as bad which is why you defend this nonsense. There is no other word and no other way to describe what this guy did an EVIL. No matter what i do and how stupid a girl is, YOU DON'T TAKE ADVANTAGE, DON'T MISTREAT AND HURT PPL FOR NO REASON WHATSOEVER, JUST B/C YOU CAN!?? WOW.....